Parents of children in Elementary school, i need your advice!?

Question

Today i was picking my son up for school like i usually do and i was parked in the parking lot for a bit longer because a bus was in my way. Because of that, i saw one boy bully another boy and i got out of the car so i could tell the bully to give this kid his ball back and stop with the threats. Now i never have done that before, but i felt that as a parent i needed to say something. Anyway, this girl who was no older then 16, (the school only goes up to 8th grade) started to scream at me and told me that she was going to cut me and kick my u know what and going to hunt me down because it was none of me business to get involved anyway. these boys were holding her back all along as if she was going to physically hurt me, so of course i went inside to get a teacher, or someone else and tell them what happened. now the school asked me to come in tomorrow morning so that i can point out the girl in person. I already know she is going to be suspended but should i have her arrested for assaulting me?

I live in Chicago and this school is in lakeview, which is a nicer part of the city. it also happens to be a magnet school too. I'm very upset this girl treated an adult with this kind of disrespect, how many young kids in that school has she done this to as well? I dont see how this obviously angry young child should be able to attend a well funded school when it seems to me she should be in a school that monitors kids like this. Deserving kids should take her place. again im not sure what i should do at this point!

any advice would be helpful!

Answer 1

You should defitnitley go to the school to point her out, so she could get punished. Did she physically touch you, because I don't know if you can have her arrested for assault if she didn't touch you. Maybe she is just an older sister to someone who goes to that school, because I don't think she can be 16 and in the 8th grade. Maybe she just looks older. She does need help so hopefully by you following through she will get help.

Answer 2

Most kids are 13 in the 8th grade.  A 16 year old should be a junior in high school.

Answer 3

Well, the best advice I can give is to tell the whole truth, obviously, and do the most you can.

You are not the one who decides whether or not she is arrested or what her punishment will be, and you shouldn't be. But, if you tell the whole story and do that you can, the officials will decide what should be done.

Make sure you inquire about a restraining order or whatever is necessary to be sure you don't run in to her at the school again.

Hopefully she gets some help and will be prevented from hurting others.

Answer 4

you said you dont know why a girl like this should be in a well funded school that bothers me  more than the dis respect which is awful that girl needs her *** kicked but has the right to go to a "well funded school"

Answer 5

You did the right thing by reporting it to the school.  I would let them take it from here.  Go to school, and point her out.  Let them decide on the appropriate punishment.  If she does get suspended, her parents will get involved which is a good thing.

Bravo to you for getting involved.  You did a brave thing by getting out of your car and confronting the bully.  Lakeview or not, that took guts!  

I'm a little concerned about your son though. Do you think the bully or the girl know your son?  I would hate for their to be repercussions against your son by the bully and/or the female who assaulted you.  You might want to bring this up with the principal when you talk to him/her.

Answer 6

She should be suspended but I don't think it is right to kick  her out because she is rude, for all you know she could have some serious home problems and be just as derserving if not more for a place in that good school. You know deep down if she should be charged. Did you get a lost child or an vicious madwoman vibe from her?

Answer 7

def make a report so it's on record.

Answer 8

First off, you did the right thing by telling the school. Any kid that is that violent and makes threats involving weapons needs to get help. More people need to take these things seriously when we have so many tragic violent acts happening at schools.

Second, I do think that you should file a police report. Schools have their hands tied in a lot of cases unless the police get involved. They need a police report to take more action in some cases. If a child is labeled as ADD, ADHD, or special ed there are laws that prevent schools from taking more action.

Third, to address the people that are saying that you should not have her kicked out of school... Schools can not "kick people out of school". The law requires that public schools provide an education to all children. What schools do is put kids in a more suitable environment. This way other kids are not in danger from them and they can get the help they need. When this child is threatening to stab an adult in front of the school, she definitely needs help.

Good Luck

Answer 9

oh my gosh. I dont think its fair to put her in juvi, but i do think its fair that you push for her to be expelled. What a jerk.

Answer 10

I'm curious what a 16-year old girl was doing at an Elementary School? I would point her out to the school, and I would have a police report written. As far as charges go, as a juvenile, they probably won't stick. A police report, however, will at least create a record of what has happened - should she get in trouble as a juvenile again.

I would also sit down and talk with the Principal about having her parents contacted. It could be she is coming from an unsupervised, or neglectful home. You would be doing her a favor if Child Protective Services needed to hear about what is going on in her household. And if the school were to hear she was being abused or neglected in any way, they are bound by law to report it. They may report it unanimously, but it still must be reported.

Magnet school or not, if this school is funded by public funds (taxes), all children all eligible to go. One of the problems public school must deal with (and not private), is that they cannot "cherry pick" their students. So they must deal with those less than ideal situations that society as a whole would rather pretend don't exist.

I hope this helps....