Parents of developmentaly delayed children: My son is developmentally delayed and his teacher has no patients.

Question

My son who is 4 Yrs. old has a learning disability and is currently under the care of his neurologist for a diagnosis. He might have autism or aspergers. He is in a good program at school. This new school year he had a different teacher but the same class with the same aide. He transistioned very well. Due to the amount of students they had to split the class and he got a new teacher and new class. The teacher he has now has been in the previouse class to get to know the students and routine to continue in her class. I already have had 2 complaints. I never had any complaints from his former teachers or therapist before. She keeps saying that he cries for things and he is just not listening to her. I don't know if it's the transition of new teacher and class. my question is shouldn't a special needs teacher have the patients for children with disabilities. I also have another older child with LD and never been through this before. Has anyone been through this before PLEASE HELP!!!

Answer 1

Request to observe the class so you can pinpoint any problems. Sit down with the teacher and make a plan for how his behavior can be addressed. You know what works with him and she may be very glad to have this information.

Answer 2

you need to ask for a meeting with your IEP team an address this situation ASAP you have the right to do this at anytime you need to and you can insist on meeting with this teacher or the principle once a month or once a quarter and give the school your email address so they can contact you if need be and if you need insist that he be put back with the other teacher

Answer 3

Please remember that just because a teacher communicates to a parent that they have been having difficulty with their child, doesn't mean that she doesn't have patience.  I handle situations like this on a daily basis, but I still keep the parents informed of the childs behavior, especially if they are working with doctors to come up with an accurate diagnosis.  The best thing you can do here is not feel attacked by the teacher but rather approach it as a partnership to do what is best for your child.

Answer 4

It could certainly be the new teacher especially if your child has any form of autism.  Change is difficult for these children.  I like all the other answers but what are you doing to speak to  your child at home about the situation?  Definitely get yourself to school and find out if the teacher is just reporting behavior to keep you informed, or if there is a problem.  How does you child adjust to change?  Can you give the teacher some pointers on helping him adjust to the change?  Get into the school, ask for a meeting, and be sure that you participate in helping with the problem.  I meet a lot of parents who give you lip service but seldom get involved in what is really happening in my classroom.  Good luck.