Parents of one child......?

Question

Do you wonder how you could ever feel the same amount of love, excitment and amazment with another child......i mean its obvious that you would but i wonder if because it isnt all new it doesnt feel as special......and honestly i can NOT imagine loving anyone or anything else in this whole wide world the way i love my daughter.....do you feel the same????

Answer 1

You can love more than one, and you can even love a child you didn't birth.

Love only grows, and in my experience no 2 children will ever be the same. Each comes with it's own personality, looks, and heart.

Plus children are born with love. It isn't that hard to love them. ;)

Answer 2

I have only one child and I feel the same but Im currently preggies with our second and Im slowly starting to feel love for the unborn child as well. I think what your feeling is quite common amounst women. Being preggies the second time isn't as exciting as the first because you know whats gonna happen and everything seems to be "matter of fact". Im still looking forward to the second child though coz I really wonder what they will look like, will they look like my first and I also look forward to seeing them play together when they are older.

Answer 3

I love my daughter and being a mother with a disability of memory loss from child hood and for the rest of my life I asked the Lord God for at least one child in my life and I got what I asked for and that was a little Girl and I'm very happy to be given  that chance after being told by doctors through my teenage and early twenties being told you wont be able to have kids when here she is to day and is 5 and in School too.e

Answer 4

I had my second daughter 5 months ago, I was worried how the dynamics would change and how i would fell towards her especially cause i was hoping for a boy, but as soon as you meet them your feelings change. Already i can see that both my girls have very different personalities and i love them both for their individuality. There is only 19 months between them but i still feel the same excitement at all her milestones it's like it is new to me.  I'm now looking forward to seeing them together playing and stuff and feeling the love between them.

Answer 5

Hi there! I don't have kids yet (TTC for 2.5 years) but I had the same thoughts before deciding to get a second dog, haha. I was like how could I love another puppy like Maverick?? But then I decided to go for it, because I wanted him to have a play mate (I'm an only child and HATE it - so I hate the thought of anyone being alone, haha). Now that Ranger is here, omg, I love him so much! Your love just grows. It is harder to give them equal attention, and I probably don't give Maverick as much as attention as I used to - but he doesn't notice - him and Ranger are best friends and spend all day playing together!

So, anyway, I guess I also wanted to say that I used to beg my parents for a sibling when I was a kid, but they'd say 'oh we want to give you everything you want, and they want to focus their energy on just us'. That would make me so mad. I would have given up all those 'things' for a sibling! And honestly, who WANTS all their parents' attention? It was a drag! haha So as you can see, I'm pro-NOT having an only child, because for me it was horrible to go through. That's why I'm planning on having at least two kids!

Great question!

Answer 6

My sister has just the one, not entirely by choice.

i on the other hand , took a while to get my first,

so to us the other two came along naturaly and

were an extra blessing after that.

i can see what you are saying...but believe me all

your children get the same love and just as passionate.

And it does ...as crazy as this sounds.......

Feel completely new all over again!

Answer 7

i felt exactly the same when i had one child, i never thought id love another as much but yeah you do

though....... as much as i love 4 of them TOTALLY equal, ive known my eldest 11 years and youngest 1 year,, big difference in memories and special times as there have obviously been more as the eldest is 11 and youngest only 1,, so you have different bonds but definately the same love equal,, hope u know what im talking about, lol

and your 1st born turned you into a mum, so i find as c**p as my memory is i remember her pregnancy and labour and newborn stage strongest than i  do with my others,, so weird!

but i love them all equal, they are so special in their own way, im so blessed to have 4 beautiful children xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Answer 8

Oh completely! I feel like I'd be betraying my daughter by having another child! I don't feel like I'd have the capacity to love another as strongly and completely as I love my daughter! My friend's who have 2 or more kids tell me they felt the same with their first and during their second pregnancys until their 2nd came along and they found that they DID love the 2nd as much as the 1st.It's all very normal apparently.

Answer 9

No but I worry that the first child would feel that they weren't loved as much as the second who would obviously have to have more attention and probably be given it by friends and family. Especially if they are far apart, I've met 1 out of about 20 5 year olds who actually liked their baby brother/sister the rest plot to hurt them. (But I have to laugh when the brother gets bigger and fights back) They get so used to being the center of attention they hate when someone steals the spotlight.

Answer 10

of coarse you will love the child just as much , a mothers love is enough for everybody , besides you should bring another child , so that your daughter could have a friend ,some one to depend on when your not there , some one to share with ,talk to , play with , I'm not trying to freak you out but what if something happens to you and your husband early on what would your daughter do all alone.

Answer 11

My motherinlaw (mother of one) thought that until the grandkids come along.  She recently told me there are room for everyone in your heart

Answer 12

Luckily love grows!!!

Answer 13

i dont know,,you would feel like you have to give as much love to the 2nd as the 1st but its hard to be equal and get everything right,,you'll obviously have longer bonding time with your 1st as theres no-one else,,yet.

each pregnancy is different and something to forward to so love all your children equally because they'll love you so much,,mother is god in the eyes of a child.

Answer 14

********ive had 4 and ur love expands not shrinks**************

Answer 15

I think this is something that all parents wonder before having more children. I had my daughter 3 years ago and she instantly became the love of my life. When I was pregnant with my son I constantly worried that I could not possibly love another human being as much as I loved her. I was really worried and upset that I would not treat him equally, because I would not have the same feelings for him. He is now 6 months old and I can honestly say that he is also the love of my life! The two of them complete me, I love them in each the same, in their own special ways. Of course you can love more than one child, after all, they are your children!   : )

Answer 16

I know what you mean. I'm trying for another now, and I worry about missing out on things with the first if I'm busy with a new baby, but everyone else does it so I'm sure it will work out. It's hard to comprehend the love you can feel for someone who wakes you up all hours of the night and pees on you...it's a funny thing, and I just want more!

Answer 17

i do,but u get over it once u have the second child

and u start to worry bout bigger problems:P

Answer 18

This is EXACTLY how I felt!  I have recently just had a second child, but there is a 9 year age gap.

I just could not fathom loving another child as much as I love my daughter, and even worried about this when I was pregnant too.

Humans have such a capacity to love though!  I still do love my daughter as much, maybe even more so as I watch her play with her little brother, talk to him, help me feed him etc.

I certainly do love my son just as much - and this time around, because I don't feel as nervous (having done it before) I can actually enjoy it more because I'm not so stressed out! hehehehe