Parents of teenagers only?

Question

im 14 years old and i have really big feelings for a boy who is 17. he's not like all the idiots that are my age, which makes him so different and thats what i love about him. he's not a pervert and hasnt asked me for s*x or anything to do with it. and i have no desire to have s*x. im young and was trying to promise myself to save until marriage. i respect myself and im true to myself. hes a nice boy. but he wont see me until i tell my mom about him. but the thing is, i dont know how my mom would take it. i have really cool parents. my mom always tells me she doesnt want secrets between us. so i want to tell her. i just dont know how she will take it or if she will understand that i really like this kid. and he wants to be with me and i want to be with him. i just am scared about my mom. i need to know from parents of teenagers how you would take this. please help...

Answer 1

3 times uve asked this, y? people ansered u already

Answer 2

Didn't you already ask this question???

Answer 3

I think the boy has provided you with your opening line - "Mom, I met a boy, but he won't see me unless I tell you about him."  Already that's one point for him - he let it be known he will not let you sneak around behind your parent's back.  Now you can tell your mom a bit about the boy, and just maybe she will even ask you to invite him over so she can meet him.  If she doesn't ask, you ask him to come over so she can meet him.  That will allow her to see what kind of kid he is, and hopefully accept him as a friend of yours.  Parent like to know who their children are hanging around with, and have some idea what you're doing.  As long as you are being good, and enjoying yourself, I think she'll be okay.

Answer 4

First i have a daughter and have heard the he's not like kids my age, only to here later he is an idiot. He is to old for you period. If he is so great why don't he have a girlfriend that is his  age? I have a question, if you do start going out with him and you do end up having s*x would it be worth him going to prison for the next 15 to 20 years? The best thing you can do is forget about this one.

Answer 5

Hi sweetie. I have two adult daughters, four teenage sons another daughter who's going on fourteen and a twelve year old daughter. Guess I qualify.

But you aren't going to like my answer.

My first observation is your statement that "I'm young and was trying to promise myself to save until marriage".

WAS? That concerns me. It's all well and good that he's a nice young man, but that's just it, this is not a boy...he IS a young man. You are at an age were attaching your feelings comes real easy. It may not seem like it to you, but it's true. He on the other hand, no matter how good his intentions, is about to be an adult. What will you do when you've gone and "fallen in love" and have to give him up to keep him from going to jail? In fact, in some places, at his age and your age he could already be asking for trouble.

That said, I won't try to tell you that your feelings will pass, or that you should be more focused on school or any of that ---although all of that is true.

I'm more concerned that, being that you sound like an intelligent young woman, you take a moment to look into your future. What happens when mom absolute refuses to allow it? And unless I miss my guess she will. I definitely would.

Will you sneak around to see him? Would he agree? And if he does what will  that say about him? Will you turn your house into chaos if your parent say no? Will it be worth it?

And let me throw in a warning here; on average, the reason someone near-grown wants "to be with" someone fourteen is because a fourteen year old doesn't really know enough to realize they are being controlled. Your parents giving you permission to see him might justify for him you coming under his ''looking out for you''.

You watch yourself sweetie! If he is as good a person as you think he knows he has no business with you. If he's always complimenting you on how mature you are, always telling you things like you should be able to make your own decisions, or that you're 'better' than the girls his age....THINK!

I've been there, at fourteen with someone who was older. It's not the best of situations for someone who still has so much exploring of life to do.

You stand with your parents. Tell them of what is going on in your life. It's their job and their desire to take care of you...no man is worth the loss of that trust between you and your mother...and you don't want that. Be patient with life, and extra patient with love, and you'll be happier as you grow up - you still have a lot of it to do.

Take care of yourself sweet, and God Bless.

Answer 6

just ask her