Parents pushing their kids to excel in school, even if they have learning difficulties or disabilities?

Question

I feel that only Asian parents push their kids to excel in school, even if they have learning difficulties, developmentally delay, or developmental disabilities. My parents including other Asian parents have pushed their kids to the max, which is more than they can handle.

I barely see any non-Asian parents push their kids to excel in school. In fact, I've never seen any white parents push their kids (whether or not they have learning difficulties) to excel in school, so it only matters that they do their best.

So I'm wondering if there are any non-Asian parents pushing their kids to excel in school, even if they have learning difficulties or developmental disabilities.

Answer 1

Yes

Answer 2

hahahah

are you freaking joking me????

i am white and my parents have pushed me to excel in school more than you can imagine and the same with my friends

and they are not all white either

one of my friends is asian and he's a D average student

an his parents could care less as long as he shows he's trying

i think you need to rethink your perspective

Answer 3

Honey, it doesn't matter what race you are, many parents push their kids to excel.  And, I'm sure that many Asian parents don't emphasize as much on schooling and grades, although, even though I'm not Asian, I have a feeling that intelligence is a part of the Asian culture and it is expected of Asian kids.

I am Caucasian-- My parents always emphasized good grades, but never pushed me in excess to my limit.  Always made sure I did my homework or studies for quizzes and tests, but if I didn't do as well as I had expected, but I tried my hardest, they were still proud of me.  And whenever I got below a solid B, my dad always went through everything with me to see what I could have done better and so that I could learn by mhy mistakes and do better the next time.  I think that is a great way of parenting and when I have kids, I will definitely attempt to handing their schooling the same way.

Now, I don't know the extent of your opinion of Asians pushing their kids to excel in school; if what you are referencing resembles the situation above or intense pressure.  Although, I do assure you, even if the majority of Asians push their kids, the same situatiosn exist in other cultures and races.

Take care, and I hope I helped some.

Answer 4

Yeah, my parents did.  My dad holds a masters of education from Yale and doctorate of ed from Harvard, and my mom is a teacher as well... so... school was a BIG deal in my household.  I'm not a school-type person, and after I'd been taking English and social studies courses at Harvard and Umass Boston when I was 14, I'd just about had it.  I was diagnosed with ADD and dyscalcula (it's like dyslexia but with numbers and evidently it effects organization skills as well), too, and though both are learning disabilities I never really felt disabled, unless I was trying to do a math problem.

Art is more my thing so we worked it out with my high school that for the last two periods of the day, I'd leave, take the T (subway) to Downtown and go to the Art Institute of Boston instead.  That was pretty much the last straw; I already had enough stuff in place to graduate, so I did just that at sixteen and called it a day.

My little sister is learning disabled - 11 years old, can barely read, doesn't grasp the basic concepts of nearly anything - and they push her just the same.  h**l, they regretted not putting me in school earlier, so they put her in kindergarten at four... she had to be held back twice... and they STILL push her.

So no, it's not just Asian parents (mine are white... well, my dad is mixed Asian/white but that's beside the point).  I've got friends who are black, hispanic, and white whose parents pushed them WAY harder than they should have, but it seems like that's more the case in the Northeast than elsewhere.

Answer 5

I think everyone should push their kids in school. Not beat them or anything if they do bad, but strongly encourage your children to do the best that they can possibly do. The importance of education should be communicated to children.

Answer 6

I was diagnosed with ADD and before that my parents were constantly pushing me.  Because of my learning disbaility though, I would not do the work, I would get extremely irritable and start yelling and cursing at my parents and my homework.  I barely passed grade school, and then something clicked.  In high school I maintained a 3.3 GPA with Ritalin, and my parents didn't push me as much.  SO yes It does happen to some families who are non-asain.  I think there is some truth to what you said though that a lot of Asian parents seem to push their kids harder, but maybe they just do it more publicly.  One of my best friends in grade school was also pushed very hard by his mother.  So I know more people who were pushed than not. and all were white, not Asian.

Answer 7

My parents do that to me. Email me and we can talk about it if you want to.