Parents who adopted children with the Reactive Attachment Disorder Diagnosis?

Question

Since I have offended people by the wording of my question (by saying RAD children instead of children with the Reactive Attachment disorder diagnosis), I have deleted it and re-worded it.

My question is for the parents of children with this disorder: Can you describe a "day in the life"? What resources do you have in place to assist you and your children? How did you connect with the resources? Was the education and training you received pre-adoption adequate?

Thank you.

Answer 1

I apologize if I came off as offended.  I wasn't offended at all.  I'm not sure if you're talking about me or someone else. I'm confused.  Did I miss something?

Answer 2

Hmmm, I didn't read that question before it got deleted, but I have a child with RAD and that's what I call it.  I didn't know it was offensive, either.  Although you should always use "people first" language (i.e. person with Autism versus Autistic person).

Anyhow...Most days with T go like the ones with every other child.  He has lots of good days, but then we get slammed with a bad one.  He will refuse to acknowledge that we are his parents, will pee on the walls, steal, lie, hurt others, destroy property...the list goes on and on.  I use parenting techniques from "Parenting the Hurt Child" by Greggory Keck and have went to a few of his trainings.  I have also wrote a term paper on RAD for my college and that helped me get to know it better.

The thing is, he might never grow out of it.  He might not ever completely trust us.  But we do the best we can to show him that our love will never go away.

And by the way, we had to research this on our own after the counselor diagnosed him.  We were not given any resources, education, or training that we didn't find on our own.