Parents..why do you do this?? WHY?

Question

Parents, WHY do you ask us kids for our opinion on something then blow up at us??? Im serious all you people are all "just be HONEST!" then we are and then what do we get a butt load of yelling at us..

And when you ask us to "wanna take out the trash?" its a QUESTION which means if we say no that should be free from being yelled at.

When we say "no sorry im busy doing my homework" or something..you start yelling and ground us..WHY? Its a QUESTION.

Just ORDER us around or something geez I've gotten so sick of this...

I've asked myself this question everyday for the past 3 years and decided to finally get a opinion from a adult that can't yell in my face or anything..

because me and ALOT of my friends have one main thing in common..

and that is our parents ask us for a honest opinion/question and if we answer incorrectly its yelling/spanking/grounding time

If your a adult and you do this for a "reason" tell me WHY?

Answer 1

This is a rant, not a question. Stop complaining, or at least learn to speak English the right way.

Answer 2

Ummm, because you should do what they want first and then finish your homework

Answer 3

I am an adult, not a parent. I was a teacher. And I would not do this. I hear your frustration.

One of the most important things in a relationship is open communication with respect. You are not being respected, as I hear it.

Are you in your teens? Spanking is almost never helpful. Once a child in my care started to climb over an upstairs railing in a mall. She was mentally retarded. So she was teenaged and tall. She functioned as a three year-old.

She was going over. She would have been killed. I slapped her and don't regret it. Just as I did one other time when she almost got into a lion pit at the zoo. She was the equivalent of a small child and somehow I just had to get her attention to save her from possibly being killed. I didn't slap her to punish her. And she knew that.

I am sorry that if you are old enough to write this you are still being spanked.

How about this? You are doing homework and are taking out the trash.

"Mom, I just started my homework. Can I do this for a while and then take a break for the trash?"

In other words, since your saying no is setting her off, then I would try a yes but let her know you need to do it a little later. Once your parents get calmer, I think you can ask them why they do this. Tell them that you are willing to do what they ask but sometimes you need to be allowed to take out the trash without wanting to. Nobody wants to take out the trash.  We ddo things we don't want to do either because they need doing or because we love somebody and want to do what they need.