Parents won't allow sleepovers at age 18?

Question

I graduated from high school this year and I'm 18. My mom won't let me stay the night at a friend's house more than once a week, even though I'm 18, it's summertime, I don't have any responsibilities, and I'm not involved in drugs.

She said it's because everyone has to answer to somebody.

She said she would kick me out of the house if I spent the night out more than once a week, which is ridiculous.

What do I do?

Answer 1

You should move out so that way since your living on your own then you could set the rules.

Answer 2

Your 18....your an ADULT.

Answer 3

Your 18, you can do what you want now. just tell  your mom im 18 and I should be able to stay out a few nights and that im responsible and not gettining into any trouble.

Answer 4

YES.. everyone has someone to answer to.. and your someone is her..

what can you do....? your 18... move out and then you can stay the night at anyones house you want..

Answer 5

Live by her rules in her house or find somewhere else to live and make your own rules.  Those are your choices.  You're legally an adult now, so it's up to you.

I found it helped my relationship with my parents to move out at your age, because it removed major sources of conflict and allowed us to start working on relating as adults.  (Though I was still pretty immature, in retrospect.)

Answer 6

If you strongly disagree with her rules, I suggest you move out.

Answer 7

Her house, her rules.

If you dont like the rules.. then get a job and get your own place.  You've graduated.. "its summer time" is no longer an excuse to goof off.

You are 18 and can do what you want..  but she also reserves the right to kick you out of HER home too!

Answer 8

that is ridicioulas. your 18 a legal adult

Answer 9

Spend the one night away from home a week and have your friends stay with you other nights. Then maybe your mom will see you are not up to anything and be more flexible with the rules.

Answer 10

Get out, it sounds like your mom is the one who has a few problems she needs to work on. You're an adult, move on.

Answer 11

This is where things get tricky. Technically you are an adult therefor you can do as you please (within reason of course, you still have to follow laws like the rest of us). However you still live in your parents home and if you do something they don't like they have every right to kick you out. You have to weigh the issues and see what means more to you, your independence or the approval of your mother. You can always try comming to her as an adult and talking to her rationally but from the sounds of things she is always going to look at you as a child, not an adult. Good luck!

Answer 12

Listen to your parents. The testosterone levels in 18 year olds can be frightening and some results more catastrophic. Listen occasionally. Mom may have already experienced that in her early years. Profit from the mistakes of others because you won't live long enough to make them all yourself.

Answer 13

radiant has a good point. By law you can do whatever you want and your parents would have no power to stop you... however... like radiant said they could and have the right  threaten to kick you out if you dont follow their rules...

I guess its not the end of the world though whats so great about sleepovers?

Obviously lets think realistically the worst thing you could do is try to convince your parents more. I believe that by presenting yourself as a mature person who is very responsible they may someday have a change of heart on this issue. Then again, they might not but regardless just move on and forget about it...its not the end of the world.

Answer 14

You're 18 start your own life and move out.

Answer 15

Move out? I know that as soon as I'm 16 [i live in the UK], I'm moving out! Lol. My rents drive me up the wall!