Parents - would you let your child..?

Question

Have his or her girlfriend/boyfriend stay with you for a couple of weeks. Considering they only see each other 2-3 times a month because they live a hour and a half apart. Would you allow it in your home? Why or why not?

Answer 1

Depends on the age of my kids and if I'm home. My girls are going into college and they've both have had their boyfriends sleep over for a night or two this past year. They had guy friends go away on vacation with us in the past...also two nights tops. They were upstairs in their rooms, the boys were in the guest room in the basement and the alarm was set :). Anyone went up or down the stairs, alarm would go off.

Answer 2

Depends on how much you trust your kids or not.

Answer 3

If my child was college age and living at home while working/attending school I would consider it...but they would have to sleep separately in my home.  If they were teenagers...like still in high school - no I wouldn't.

Answer 4

It depends on how old they are. 16-17 I see no problem with it. My step sister is 17 and went on a week vacation with her bf and turned out fine. It depends on the person.

Answer 5

You don't say how old the "child" is. If this friend is a future mate, then it's different from a teen steady. Just taking him in so they can spend more time together is a little too permissive.

My daughter's boyfriend stayed with us for a couple of nights when he was living in a tent is the snow because his friends had moved into his house a crowded him out into the backyard! I hadn't discussed it with my husband beforehand -- OOps -- and he was surprised to say the least in the morning. But John was sick with a cold and I couldn't leave him out there. He was in the bottom bunk and Marie was in the top. They are now married, age 33 and 39.

Answer 6

No I don't think I would - i don't think it would be right.

Answer 7

If they were junior high age, no way. If they were high school age, it all depends on how much I trust each of them and they would be in seperate rooms anyhow. College age, well, why would they be staying with me even though they would be welcome?

Answer 8

i think i would look for a friend or neighbor tha'ts nearby to house him, then everyone could sleep well.

Answer 9

Yes, but I would keep them in separate bedrooms at night.

Answer 10

depends on how old they were and maybe if the other parents were ok with it and id keep them in different rooms

Answer 11

Depends on the age of the children involved.

Probably, but only after I've established a relationship with the SO's parents and we're on the same page about it.

Otherwise I have no trouble with driving my kid 90 minutes to a neutral place like a mall and doing my own shopping and movies and such while they hang with the SO.

Answer 12

I would allow my children from a young age to have friends of both s*x to come and stay with us.  The boys always in one room and the girls in another.  They would camp in the summer and again two separate tents.  When they became teenagers I again would allow my sons girlfriend or my daughters boyfriend to stay but in separate bedrooms.  I gave them the trust that they would respect me and my judgement as I respected them and their ability to judge any given situation.  We cannot oversee our teenagers 24/7 but we can give them the respect of intelligence that they are not going to do anything to embarrass us or themselves.

Answer 13

well...for what? Are they just missing each other and want to spend more time with each other? If that's the case than no. Too many bad things can come out of than equation.

Answer 14

do u work? will they be alone for hours at a time?

Answer 15

Nope, too young.

Answer 16

That really would depend on a few different things.  First how old are they?  How much trust do you have in them?  Are they going to be unsupervised at any time?  Are the other parents okay with it?  

I do not think I would have a problem with it as long as they were responsible and understood the rules.  

I would make sure I kept my bedroom door open at night and installed a squeaking mechanism at my child's door so when it opened I would hear it.  

I went on vacation with the guy I dated in high school for a few weeks one summer.  His mom was way to trustworthy!  We could of gotten into a lot more trouble but respected each other and were pretty much scared to death of my father!  =)

Answer 17

Absolutely. Separate bedrooms, why not.