Partner has anger issues what shud i do?

Question

my partner has an explosive temper the least little thing can trigger him off causing him to curse and swear at me, once he's calmed down he expects me to just forget about it and apologises and says everyone says things they dont mean when they're angry, he wont listen to anything i have to say just shouts louder and talks over me, i find him rude and aggressive, my head tells me to dump him and move on but my heart says different, hes says i cant see that i provoke him, we have a 15 wk old baby together and i ahve an 11 yearold from a previous relationship, i'm so unhapy but worst thing is i love him, waht shud i do?

Answer 1

Ask him to go on an anger management course.

If he refuses, move out.   The next step could be violence

Answer 2

just tolerate him but if it were up to me i'll dump him

Answer 3

Try writing him a letter explaining how you feel.At least then if he reads it when he's alone he won't be able to interrupt! He needs to realise that once something is said and feelings have been hurt it takes a lot more than an apology to heal you. If he loves you he should agree to get counselling for his anger. If he won't realise that this is a problem then you would be better off on your own. Life is short hun and we all deserve to be happy. Let him stew in his own juices and make a life for you and the kids. Good luck x

Answer 4

If you love your children, then you would leave him. You are an adult and you are old enough to make the decision to put up with him, but your children are not!!!

Obviously he is conditioning you to believe that he has no control over what he says and does when he is angry. But if he had no control, then why hasn't he done anything that could possibly land him in jail or something that has massive consequences? Think about it, he has a problem!!! But it's not yours or your children's!!!