Partner paying for s*x websites?

Question

I found my boyfriend on 4 different s*x websites. I came across the first one when i was looking for something else and i found out he's been paying £40 a month for it for quite a while. I decided to do some investigating and i found a few more but he was only paying for one. He's also got the email addresses of some of the girls he's been talking to on his MSN adress. He hasnt met up with any of them yet they all live in the states or at the other end of the country. I don't know what to do about it. I dont know if i should tell him or what. He's constantly looking for something else and i dont understand why im not good enough for him. We have done all sorts of things with all sorts of people. i dont understand why he would want to do it?

Answer 1

You looking for something else what you doing up there?

Answer 2

You need to confront him right away.....

Answer 3

See, there is a big difference between a husband paying to watch p**n on line and husband paying on a s*x website!!

all guys watch p**n. dont mean he will ever cheat on you.

but if husband is paying on hooking site, now that's totally different.

no matter what u think you figured out, he has no excuses.

chances are he have already cheated on multiple time.

no, he will not admit it to you, so dnt be stupid.

your husband totally crossed the line, and you know it well.

Answer 4

You said that he has been paying for the website for a long time now. Has he been using those websites before you both got together? If it was before you got together then perhaps the girls email addresses that he has from the websites he just hasn't deleted yet. Maybe since you both got together he doesn't talk to them anymore he just still has them on there. Also, you didn't really say how you feel about p**n and such. Are you okay with it, as long as you know about it? Maybe he didn't want to tell you because you would get mad. You should confront him about it and ask him if he is still talking to the woman on his messenger. Maybe he isn't anymore. And, If he is just innocently looking at p**n then that's not a big deal. Most men do look at p**n, although its a little dumb to be paying for it because you can get it for free all over the internet lol.

He might be mad that you were snooping so don't tell him all the details or he may not trust you anymore and hide even MORE later on. Just tell him what you told us, that you were looking for a website that you wanted to find again and you came across it. Talk to him about your feelings on it, but if all this was before you got together don't worry so much.

Also, Its not that he keeps looking for something more. And, it doesn't mean that you are not good enough. My boyfriend looks at p**n and it has nothing to do with me. It doesn't mean I'm not good enough or he doesn't love me.....guys are just perverts and like seeing what other woman got. They are very visual creatures, and its just something they enjoy doing that they find as innocent. And, it doesn't mean they want to cheat. Try and look at his point of view and stay open minded or he will shut you out.  

Answer 5

confront his azz  

Answer 6

Cheating means different things to different people.  Personally I feel on line cheating is still cheating.  I found my husband doing similar things and was ready to divorce him.  He quit and we worked out the problems that made him do this.  (It isn't necessarily all about s*x)  Tell him what you know and that you will not stand for it.  The rest is up to him.

Answer 7

Wow dump the loser, find a normal guy who would not pay 40$ a month for p**n but download it like all normal people do.

Answer 8

Talk to him about it and share your feelings. Until you get it out in the open it will just fester and cause problems.

Also, he is your boyfriend and not your spouse and you have not discussed what kind of relationship you guys have. How committed are you?

How I would react with a husband is totally different how I would react with a boyfriend.

Answer 9

dump the loser.