Party problem... help please?

Question

so i wanted to throw my bff a themed surprise party for her sweet 16th but now it sounds like she just wants a party with colors and no theme. what should i do? i have reallty cool ideas for a theme so should i just surprise her with that?

Answer 1

do your idea, but perhaps tone it down to make it seem more like what she had in mind... so meet in the middle

Answer 2

Being it's her party, respect her wishes, if she doesn't want a theme, do NOT do one.  This is about HER, being it's HER birthday.  She is the one that has to be happy and have her favorite things and the people she wants and if she only wants the party done with her favorite colors, do that and NO theme.  You don't want to upset her on her sweet sixteen?

Think about it this way, if you were in her shoes, would you want someone doing to you what you wanted, or what they wanted? I know you mean well, but she may think you just went ahead and did what you wanted to do and didn't care about how she felt. Do what she asked her.  I have this thing, treat people the way YOU want to be treated, and the way you would want your wishes to be respected, you should respect her's.  She's your best friend and if you really want her to enjoy her party and have fun, do it HER way and the way she wants.

You can always save the themes you have ideas for, for your own party or for another freind's party.  You can use them another time.

Have you told her about those ideas?   Maybe if you tell her about those themes, she will like them, BUT I would NOT surprise her with them, respect what she wants.  This is a big time for her, it's her sweet 16, but even if it weren't, she's your best friend and asked you to do it the way she'd like because she trusts you, do you want to break that trust?  I KNOW you mean well and you just want to make her have a great party, but she may not be into the themes as much as you are, some people like the theme parties more than others and for her, the colors are what she likes.

The ONLY way I would consider doing the themes is if you sit down and tell her what they are, but then she may feel pressured and tell you to do them to make you happy, and her birthday shouldn't be about making other's happy, it should be about HER being happy and her getting what SHE wants.

I hope I'm NOT sounding harsh, I DO NOT want to come across this way, I'm just trying to help you save your friendship and help you NOT have hard feelings with your bff, I would hate for you to surprise her with one of your cool ideas and her be upset and then be talking about to others at the party that this wasn't what she wanted and you went ahead and did what you wanted and not what she wanted and made it about you, not her.  You do NOT want that happening and I DO NOT want to see that happen to you,  I KNOW you mean well, but she may not see it that way.

I would do it the way she wants, and then in the future, save your ideas for you parties and when she tells you how cool they are, you can tell her you were scared to do it for her and upset her.  There's always next year to do one for her, or her 18th b'day that you can do one for her.  You can always save them for you and have the coolest parties out of your freinds!

Answer 3

A safe but fun one would be a prom-styled party with colours. What are her favourite colours? Tell all the guests to dress formally with those colours.

You could decorate your venue with these colours as well, and serve prom style food and have a DJ/stereo with her favourite songs on.

She'll love it and she'll feel really special :) It's a simple theme that won't be too over-the-top and she can really enjoy it.

Answer 4

You know what would be good to do for her......

Make her think that she is having a surprise party and actually set up a dummy to go in (one of your friends) and mistakenly ask you "What time is the surprise party at?"(make sure your B FF is there and make sure none of your friends laugh)

And then take her somewhere else...... but make sure you like call all the people up and tell them there's no surprise party but we are going to go do something else like (shop, bowl, hit the beach, have a pool party, skating rink) something of that

nature.

And make sure you call her like 10 mins after everyone gets their and like set up another dummy like to get her to come to the real surprise party or event

Make the dummy say that their car broke down and they really need your BFF's help and make sure its near the even or party where your going to do it at.....

HOPED I HELPED AND IF SOMEONE DOES THIS EMAIL ME HOW IT GOES...

Answer 5

Keep it simple but keep in mind that you do NOT want to dissappoint your sweetie on her sweet 16th.  Is it possible to do your theme AND her colors in the same party?  If not - guess you should concede and keep her happy...  

This is her very special day - and you want to stay her very special guy?

Good Luck and have fun kiddo

HOttttttttttttt  Doggggggg

Answer 6

Her favorite colors can BE the theme!  Pick 2 colors, and have everyone dress in those colors - do food & decorations in those colors.  If you have another, subtle, theme that you can work into those colors, that's fine;  but don't do something "all out" like a costume or formal party (how would you get her to dress up for those anyways?)

Answer 7

Just have the theme be the colors that she wants. Its her party and her birthday you should give her something she wants. Common color themes are pink and green and black and white.