Past relationship...?

Question

Hi

I got married 4 months back, it was an arranged marriage. Initially the girl had told me that she had a boyfriend during her college & later they broke up for some reason & said that it will not affect our lives further as she has forgotten about it. Even i thought i should not dig into the issue deeper as she honestly told me abt it.

Now even after 4 months of marriage, she is very moody, cries quite often for no strong reason... fights with me for silly reasons & during the fights makes statements like "who wanted to marry?", "It would have been better if i had died, there would have been no fights", etc...,

Recently, again when she started crying i said if something is bothering you...pls. let me know... ur mind will become free.... then she told how her old boyfriend cheated her, exploited her & also told me that they had s*x 10 to 15 times during college days....

after hearing this story i am getting a feeling that i have been cheated.... i appreciated the honesty of the girl then & trusted her for telling the truth,,, now she is confiding about past s*x & also another man in her life who consoled her after her break up... etc... etc

i am really confused & depressed with all this.... what should i do now??? pls. help...

Answer 1

I would dump the tart . She obviously is still in love with her boyfriend . Think about it , what do you have to do with her past s*x affair

Answer 2

past relationships must be PAST, never dig for it. and never ask her about it. tell her this is you, and the day you married her, you promised to do the best for her and to take care of her to the rest of your life. ask her why she chose you in the first place? if she gives you the reason, you will know where to go..it seems to me she is hurt in her life, so if you love her you must be patient until she discovers all the good in you( at teh end, ths is what an arranged marriage based on)....if you r not sure of your feelings towards her, be her friend, try to discover what both of you have in common...i wish you the best

Answer 3

It's arranged marriage. What did you expect? To be happy? It's her past relationship, how is that cheating?  

Answer 4

Maybe that's the problem with arranged marriages.

No one has the ability to find their hearts desire.

Apparently she is not happy in a loveless marriage.

And neither are you.

I think you two need to make other arrangements, part as friends, and go your separate ways.

Next time, you make the choice of whom you want to marry.

After all, it is your life.

Answer 5

Everyone has a past. It's VERY rare for people not to have previous bf/gf's and sexual partners nowadays. Past is the past and it makes the person who they are today. Forget the past work on the present and the future

Answer 6

move on marrige is a 2 way street

Answer 7

Must be tough when you have to question your own manhood.

Poor b*****d.