People, your honest true genuine serious thoughts about women who marry doctors?

Question

Do you really think these women marry these doctors because they consider them to be heroes and admire their heroism?

Or is it for vanity purposes like flawless, perfect physical beauty at the tips of their fingers?

Or is it because they are nothing but ne'er do well dimwitted selfish gold diggers who just want the convenience of having the security of mooching and scrounging off of someone?

Answer 1

Geez, I thought it was like everyone else - they met, they fell in love and they married.  

Answer 2

Perhaps they are the same like many other couples that are not doctors; they just met, fell in love, and got married.  Why does everyone presume that women who marry doctors are just gold diggers, are doctors really that shallow and unattractive to the opposite s*x, that one can only presume that a person would marry a doctor for the money?   =P

Answer 3

It's really hard to say, but a person is not usually solely defined by his/her job.  I don't think that all women marry doctors for some reason.  I'll tell you why I DON'T want to marry a doctor:

Since he is considered this "hero," he is needed a lot.  He works long hours AND is on call.  I don't want to be married to someone who puts his relationship far behind his job.

As for the beauty thing, I don't think that plastic surgery produces "perfect physical beauty."  What are you so angry about?  I'm glad to be dating someone who has enough money but not a lot, and really cares about our relationship and has time for it.

Answer 4

Maybe it's because people who become doctors dedicate their lives towards helping others, at least that would be the stereotype.

The reasons for why a person would do anything are always manifold and there are always exceptions.

I could crack my skull open trying to understand precisely why a person would do something, and to be honest i think i've already done that a fair number of times already.

It's all part of trying to understand people, really.

;P

Answer 5

Wow some body is mad!!!! well i think the man will only marry who he wants most doctor are married to their wife because they love them... Doctors are not stupid they will keep the gold digger as the girl friend not make her his wife..

Answer 6

There are female doctors too.  In any event, I would hope the reason why anybody would marry anybody is because they love, care  and support that person and want to share the rest of their lives with them.    

Answer 7

I dated a doctor once, just for bragging rights, and he was the biggest pervert I ever encountered. I don't think there was necessarily a correlation between the two, but it was rather off putting.  

Answer 8

Maybe they just happened to fall in love with someone who happened to be a doctor...

Seriously. Did a doctor dump you and marry another woman? Because you sound like a bit of a bunny-boiler, you know?

Answer 9

your marrying the man you love if he is a dr. hey great  sounds like you have a chip on your shoulder lol

Answer 10

Depends. Did they marry them before they became a doctor? What kind of doctor are they? Does she work too? What is their lifestyle?

I would never assume anything about a woman (or a man) just because they married a doctor. It's not all glamorous. Their partner sees some hard things, is on call a lot of nights and weekends, works hard hours in a lot of cases.

My boyfriend's dad is a doctor. He and his wife are very down to earth, they live a comfortable lifestyle but aren't over the top, and she works. Granted, she probably doesn't have to, but enjoys making some money for herself and getting out of the house.

Answer 11

Well, since a lot of women who marry doctors are in the medical profession themselves, i.e., nurses, anesthetists, other doctors, etc., a lot of it has to do with being around them and sharing the same interests. Kinda like any other profession.

Others have grown up being told that doctors are among the most successful of all professions. If you are looking for long-term security, you don't seek out panhandlers on the street, but those who are most likely to provide for your (future) family. That's just a biologic imperative. I don't know that I'd call that gold-digging, just being selective.

As to the vanity, physical beauty part... I really don't know where you get that. You must be a Nip/Tuck fan. That's the only thing I can think of.

Answer 12

haha.... I wonder if doctors have any mood for s*x??

Answer 13

Why should I judge the reason someone else gets married for?

Answer 14

what about if the women is a doctor

Answer 15

I say ALL OF THE ABOVE.

Answer 16

or maybe the wife is also a doctor and met him at work or at college or in medical school....................

Answer 17

Who cares?

Answer 18

3 is frequently the case

Answer 19

The doctors' wives I know married their husbands because they loved them, not because they were doctors.  The husband of at least one of these women was established in another profession when he decided to go to medical school.  Yes, usually a doctor's wife enjoys a high level of social status and financial security, but she usually pays for it by having a husband who is wrapped up in his work and subject to short-notice calls that can wreck any leisure time plans they have made.  Then of course, today many doctors' wives know from VERY close up the stresses of begin a doctor, because they, too, are doctors.

Answer 20

To answer your question from personal knowledge, my best friend from grade school married a doctor.  In fact when we were in college together she would only date pre-med students.  It took her until 3 years after college to nail the doctor of her choice, resident student finishing up his residency as a specialist in hand surgery.  Yeah I think she  loved him but I definitely know she loves the life style he's afforded her by those annual Christmas newsletter.  Totally disgusting.  I never see her as she and her doctor have moved a far distance away.  She was not dimwitted nor a ne'er do well she just wanted the luxury of status and wealth without having to overly exert herself.

Answer 21

i don't think you can generalize...it might be all of these reasons but for different people, but you can't just say that all people who marry doctors are goldiggers or whatever.

and btw, like someone else said, there are female doctors too.

Answer 22

I once worked for a woman who was married to a doctor.  Her son (my age) told me she did it because as a young woman (long before feminism) she wanted the society life that came with being a doctor's wife.  When I met her 30 years later, she told me that it was a mistake.  She didn't anticipate that his career came before their marriage to such an extent, nor did she anticipate the number of women who wanted to take her husband from her (some almost succeeded).  They remained married, but she said if she had to do it all over again, she wouldn't have married a doctor.

Vanity?  That's ridiculous.  You watch too many soap operas.  What if he's a urologist?  And even if he's a plastic surgeon, it would be unethical for him to work on his wife.  Perfect physical beauty indeed!!

Now, about men who marry doctors - my PCP has a good marriage.  She and her husband have one daughter and are solidly together.  Or didn't it occur to you that women are doctors as well as wives and mothers?

If you're considering marrying a doctor, best wishes to you.