People always say be yourself , do u really believe that statement? what if u are yourself and they don't like

Question

it? but than again they want u to be yourself. what can u do in that situation? do people really want others to be themselves, because being yourself can have major conflicts, one can be shy, a drug addict, or murder and etc, yet u want them to be themselves, what if they are who they see to be, u can't change them, telling someone to be who they are mean to accept everything they are and will become. if that's right, than why do people still have doubts

being around them. being curious, do u really want them to be themselves, or just want them to be your imaginative person. because u can't change someone. do u agree with what i said?

Answer 1

be yourself should be followed by, and who you want to be. be yourself sounds so unchanging, like a brat stuck in their ways, and uses "being his/herself" as justification. i don't know. i get what you are saying, but the quote is only for when you play or mask your real thoughts.

a drug addict cannot be themselves in my opinion.

i want people to be themselves around me, i be myself.

not sur if i answered correctly, oh well.

Answer 2

I feel people protest too much when they say this. to say "just be yourself" is a cop-out, a way to avoid talking out specific problems with a person. Most people are ignorant and completely incapable of acting in their own self-interest, let alone able to help others. Your only choice is to be a lonely individual or an accepted clone. I know this isn't a pleasant choice, but it's as honest as I can be. Good luck.

Answer 3

hmm, it must be exciting to think that way, but a drag to have to deal with the clinical diagnoses. just kidding. u make a good point. but i think u should always be urself, and if they dont like who u r then s***w them. life is too short to worry about if people like you or not. u just have to like urself, right?  

Answer 4

Even though people say that, they want you to reconcile making an honest presentation of yourself with also being pleasant.

Answer 5

I do believe that people should be themselves. But if someone is a murderer, using your example, that is not what's meant by "be yourself", murder is not what someone is, but what someone does. neither is a drug addict. I also think while you can't change someone, people can change and grow.  

Answer 6

I sort of agree with what you say.

However, here is what I disagree with:

For starters, no, I cannot change someone.  You are whoever you want to be.  I can attempt to show you things that you should want, and hope that you change yourself to want those things, but I cannot force you to change.  Force only receives one thing in return:  stubborn, obstinate force.  I can only attempt to reason with you.

Next, I cannot bring myself to believe that some is, in the very core of their being, truly a drug addict or a murderer.  Someone might be shy, or may be haughty, or may be a lot of other things, but something as terrible as what you meantioned are not who people TRULY are.  That is what people become when denying their true selves.

You asked what if you are yourself, and they don't like it.  If that is the case, then you are yourself, and you should not care what they like or don't like.  You should be whatever YOU want to be.  That is the point of being yourself.

Also, you said that if I tell someone to be theirself, I have to accept whatever they become.  This is not true either.  If I am being myself, and I see something I don't like, I'm going to attempt to make it better.  I do not have to accept someone if they are flawed.  I can attempt what I stated above, or I can simply leave that person out of my life.  There are other choices, as well, that I can take, but I do not have to accept their flaws.

All in all, I can see your point of view, but I think that it has a few flaws.  Check your premises, and continue your journey.

Always remember to face the facts.

Answer 7

The alternative to beng yourself and not being liked for it is to be liked for what you are not.

Either to live uncomfortably with the reality or to live comfortably with an illusion ; an illusion that first you project about yourself, then becomes the illusion of others about you until you yourself take that for the reality.

Answer 8

It means don't be FAKE.  Don't act like some celebrity or someone you think is "cool" cuz you think that's how you should be, too.  All in all, if you have some sort of issues like being a shy axe-murderer addicted to cocaine, lol...If one person doesn't like the fact that someones shy or has a drug problem, then f***em. there are people for everyone.

Answer 9

Yes it is true statement.

Be yourself can only be possible when you know yourself.



Once you know yourself in totality, then only you can really be yourself.

Once you know your personality, your traits, you know that you are the master of your body, you are the master of your five senses, then your body and senses becomes your tools and helping and supporting you for your thought process,meeting your objective and your goals.

And it is also amazing that once you know yourself completely, you know all other human beings also. At this stage, you emphathise others very easily. Your behaviour with other changes completely. You become nice, polite, cooperative to others without any expectation.  Since all human beings are reflection to each other, others also become cooperative to youself reflecting your own behaviour. Some exceptions may be there but if you observe carefully and sensibly, you will find this is mostly o.k.

Please also know that if a wrong person comes in contact with you, You can refine a wrong person to betterment to the extent you devote your time with that person  

Answer 10

It is true that you can't change other people but constantly wearing a false face also makes it very difficult to change the self.

Evolution requires interaction. If you're interacting under pretense, the only thing that is likely to evolve is your skill at pretense and socializing. You probably won't evolve as a human being.

Be yourself. Take your licks. Improve your inner self.

Why would you want to hang out with people who don't accept you as you are?

There's a strange twist to this. When you ARE yourself, take your licks, learn from your experience and that changes you - those who are constantly pretending will assume the change in you is pretense.

People assume all kinds of things about other people and the first suspicion that pops up is usually what they themselves are doing. A pretender will assume you're pretending  A manipulator will assume you're manipulating. Someone who is inwardly viscious will assume you are as well.

If you're not like that, why would you want to hang out with people who are? Why would the opinions of such people be of any interest to you? If you are not accepted as you are, then you are rejected. If you are only accepted when you pretend you're not as you are, then you are rejected.  

Answer 11

I see two different situations here. There’s a big difference in being true to yourself and being yourself. To get down to the nice points, you can be a slob (sloppy) and be yourself but to be “true” to yourself is to live by the highest standards you can set yourself, which means integrity, right living, and positive thinking in order to express your true individuality.

BE TRUE TO YOURSELF -- You are a unique individual with specific talents and placed in this world for a purpose. You have a responsibility to yourself, your well-being first, and cannot please all of the people all of the time, you can only do your best and believe in yourself. If it is right for you, whatever your expression is, and if anyone does not accept you as you are then I don’t think you have lost a great friend there. Real friends will accept you ‘warts and all’. Nobody’s perfect, and we all have faults, so why judge others if you don’t really understand them, or yourself, for that matter! Be true to your inner being (that still, small voice inside you), and don’t try to imitate anyone else because you’ll be a copy of another and not the real person you were meant to be. Just some words of wisdom here.

CONFLICTS -- A bit of explanation. When a person is true to themselves and are happy with who they are, there is a positive outlook in general. They take things in stride, meet the challenges of the day, and have a fairly good balanced view.

However, if by any chance ill-health or emotional disturbances have entered into the picture, these negative influences can be troublesome to themselves and to others who care about them. It needs to be set right because when someone is ill that is really not the person you know and who’s capable of shouldering their responsibilities whatever they may be.

It isn’t a good approach just trying to change anyone as you’re likely to meet with resistance. It’s like putting a dish of veggies in front of a child and saying “Eat that!” when you know they aren’t keen on them, so you can expect they’ll push it away. How you go about correcting a situation depends on many factors and perhaps some medical attention can get things moving in the right direction. This is something you must decide.

Hope this helps!

Answer 12

well first of all, you should always remember that not all people know how to appreciate those who are true to themselves.

it's a matter of following your own heart. not what others would think of you.. knowing that each of us can never please everybody.

well if I believe that statement, personally yes. although it's not always true on some circumstances. it is especially true on tough times.. when you had no other choice, you had to care for yourself first in order to survive.. and before you can help others, isn't it?

overall, I'd say being true to ourselves is silver. but caring for others selflessly is gold.

Answer 13

Because being like someone else just because they look cool is greed.  Being yourself takes hard work and it helps to have the support of others when trying to be yourself.  Thats why everyone dislikes bullys they encourage negitive change in people by enforcing stupid ideals they have onto others.....

Answer 14

Well...let me put it to you this way...

If you're like Timothy McVeigh...

Don't be yourself...

Answer 15

You can only be yourself.

Otherwise, you are pretending.

Which is terribly difficult.

And ultimately impossible.