People are scared of me or intimidated?

Question

Hey, I'm 18 and this week will wrap up my first week of college dorm life,its a big accomplishment. But sometimes I feel like people are scared of me. In my eyes everyone looks the same ( i don't wanna offend ne one) but here, its mostly a white school. the girls wear short shorts and tee-shirts with big shades. And the guys kinda are starting to merge into one person as well...

Well in comes me, african american,with short short hair, piercings, funky style, never matching lol. I try to say hello to ne one i walk beside and they look at me like I'm scary. I mean it can be funny sometimes, but i mean its really starting to hurt my feelings cuz i cant connect with these people...

Sigh *Needs a hug*

Answer 1

You sound a really sweet guy! I even want to be your friend and I'm "normal". It sounds like its these people who have the problem and not you and they probally are a little intimidated by you, I think I might be if I bumped into you in the street but your doing the right thing by saying hi to everyone and anyone. Keep it up and gradually people will see the sweet guy inside the muscles! A week isnt a long time to get to know someone even though it seems it is. If you want to make friends I know it sounds cliche but try joining some clubs or make an effort to go to any parties you hear of and chat to everyone, you sound pretty confident. If you ever get the chance to do any presentations etc in front of the class do them so people can see how sweet and funny you are. Good Luck honey you will do fine and whatever you do DONT CHANGE!!!

**remember** if every single person was the same the world would be an incredibly boring place.....

Answer 2

Just talk to them and be friendly. Oh and maybe try to match so they now your approachable. Happy to help.

Answer 3

Awwe, don't be discouraged on making friends. Just keep trying, be yourself. Sooner or later people will start to befriend you. Patience is the key. :)

Answer 4

Hugs to you!

Answer 5

well give it time you only been in school for a week. Maybe they just don't no how to approach you right now, just hang in their in a couple more weeks, you will have more then enough friends.

Answer 6

They all look the same to you, but you're hurt that they don't respond to your hello? It's not like you respect them very much. Maybe if you think of these people as individuals, and give them a slight chance to get used to your admittedly extreme look, things will change.

Answer 7

don't try to change yourself to connect with these people.

if they can't accept you, they're not worth it.

but i really think it's only because you're dressing differently.

everyone at my new school pushed me aside because i didn't wear abercrombie or american eagle.

it took me a while, but i finally found some friends.

just give it some time.