People at work you cannot stand?

Question

I just started a new job not more than 4 weeks ago, and since the first day, there is one person I just cannot stand! She has her moments where I think that she may actually be human, but all of the rest of the time she is just so cocky and rude, not to mention OVERLY SARCASTIC. What can you really do? I don't like to be the one to complain about a person to higher management, and It's way too soon to transfer or ask anything close to. I have a really hard time keeping my mouth shut after so much, but at the same time I can't be rude to people. I know I'm at the job for the money, but It's hard to stick with it when someone (or the job itself) is making you miserable. What do you do in this situation?

Answer 1

If you're really stuck, the best thing you can do is just try to limit your contact with this person. Email when you can instead of doing a face to face, leave a voice mail mesage when you know they aren't at their desk. Other than that you'll just have to ignore whatever comes your way until you can move. Just hang in there.

Answer 2

There is ONE person at your new job that you don't like and you feel you have to complain or transfer?  Goodness, get a thicker skin.  There will ALWAYS be someone or a few you don't like wherever you wind up. You just have to deal with it and them.  Interact as little as possible with the person and recognize it's not important that everyone likes each other only that they can do the job and get things done.  If you are only in it for the money, maybe you are at the wrong place, but that doesn't insure that another place won't find you facing the same issues.  It's life.

Answer 3

I've been in the same position...I think that almost everyone has.

Just keep your cool. If she's rude to you, just don't even act like you noticed or that it bothered you at all. I know it's hard to keep from saying something, but just remember that you're taking the high road.

She obviously has issues that are her problem, not yours. Be cordial to her, but not overly friendly, and ignore her negativity.

There's always someone out there like that. There are just certain things and people that we have to deal with in life.  I do know it can be a miserable situation, but remember that you are allowing her to make you miserable. You have to mentally just say F*** U,!

Remember, I said mentally, not out loud :) . Don't let rude, arrogant, people ever keep you from doing what you have to do.

Best Wishes!

Answer 4

Oh please sweetie, welcome to the real world called Life!  This is what it is all about.  You need to learn to deal, she is a person as are you and perhaps there are folks who do not like you either and they just have to deal.  So deal with it, it will make you stronger and a better person for it.  Find out why this person is the way she is and kill em with kindness.

Answer 5

my bosses and co-worker.

Answer 6

I'm in the same situation.  I have a co-worker who is very sarcastic and constantly undercutting my work.  I've learned that the best way to deal with it is to just laugh either with her or at her.  That usually makes her look stupid for the comments and makes me seem like a person who can really roll with the punches.

Answer 7

You've only been on the job for four weeks and you're complaining about co-workers...

How do the other people deal with this person? If they get along, it might be best to redefine your attitude...

If they can't get along either, then watch how they deal with her, and do the same....

In any case, if you have only been there 4 weeks, you don't want to be complaining to management... it makes you look like a "whiner"

Just do your work, and go out of your way to help your co-workers......

Answer 8

I have been in a similar situation. I'm a lot like you, not wanting to be confrontational. Unfortunately you may just have to put up with the situation. I find that these sort of people love attention, so ignoring this person- even when they are speaking to you directly- will at the very least discourage them from speaking to you. They will probably think there is something wrong with you when you do this. So you risk being talked about, ha ha. But if it means you are left alone it might be worth it! If you are biting your tongue, why? If this person is your equal I doubt it will get you in any trouble if you speak your mind. She doesn't seem to have any problem doing so

Answer 9

give her a good old smack in the kisser then she'll know not to mess with the best ;)

good luck! =]

Answer 10

That sounds completely normal to me. Just do your best to not let her get to you. Maybe you just need to get to know her better. Some people are not natural at being around people. Social anxiety and more. It's just something that might explain her behavior. I don't know.

Give it some more time. Try to be positive. There are always wrinkles. Count your blessings. I've worked in a really bad environment and I left. I didn't want to but a great opportunity came my way. I wanted to leave but wanted to honor my commitment. But it was really difficult. It actually scarred me and I'm over it now. But it took some time. The abuse was pretty awful.