People from Montreal - Tell me more...?

Question

What do you know about people from Montreal...and do they have issues settling down? I ask because my boyfriend is struggling to commit and I am starting to think it is his environment more than anything else that has given him this orientation towards ease, and lack of commitment....any thoughts??? Thanks!

Answer 1

I totally disagree with some of the people on here. People are people regardless if they're French or from Montreal. The fact that Quebec has the lowest marriage rate in Canada means nothing. More and more Quebecois enter common law, which is the same thing as marriage without the ceremony. Also, people who are single and single parents can still have a stable lifestyle.

Your problem lies with your boyfriend and definitely not with Montreal of French Canadians. Even if it were, French Canadians are barely a majority in Montreal nowadays, so there's no excuse to say that it's a "French" thing.

Answer 2

People here have a hard time committing.  It's a very french way of thinking, which means the guys and girls both want freedom above all.  It doesn't mean things won't work out, I just believe it's harder than the rest of the country.  The only girlfriend that committed to me is my present wife, and she's from abroad.

Answer 3

People here doesn't want to commit. They do not want responsibilities. They want their freedom (I do not know why because committing to a woman or having kids doesn't mean loosing your freedom). There is also that habit of looking for a F$%& Friend. I found my first wife in the Philippines. Now I am looking for anotherone in Cuba. It's easier in countries where they still valor marriage and family.

Answer 4

I've never heard that before!?!

What makes you think it's more so people from Montreal that behave like this?

Personally, I think the problem lies with your boyfriend, not with where he's from and/or grew up.

Don't look at Montreal to shift the blame!

Funny how people always look for excuses elsewhere.

I grew up in Montreal and I've never been afraid of commitment or settling down - but then again, I'm not a man!

So what does that tell you?

Don't blame Montreal!

I know plenty of folks from Montreal who have been in committed relationships for years!

And guess what - those people even have kids now, can you believe this?

Word of unsolicited advice: get your boyfriend (and eventually potential hubby) enrolled into therapy at once!

Good luck to both of you!

Answer 5

It does have one of the lowest marriage rates in Canada, and one of the highest rates of children born to parents who aren't married. So you may be on to something, though I never thought of it before.

Answer 6

I agree with you but I dont think its a Montreal thing, I think it's a French Canadian thing.  Like others have said it's their environment.  I believe the first and 2nd generation immigrants still believe in marriage, because their parents did/do.  

My husband and I were at a large (about 250 people) French Canadian wedding not long ago, and the d.j. was trying to find "the couple married the longest" in the room....   He asked "how many people have been married longer than 5 years to please stand up, and other than the grandparents and a couple of other couples, no-one stood up!!!  So few couples were actually married, he had to change his wording  to find the coupel who had been  "living together" together the longest instead.    

I work at an elementary school and it amazes me how many kids tell me their parents aren't married, and yet they have been together for years and years.

It's very sad, and I believe it's all because of the French attitude towards the Catholic church, they are rebelling against all the rules and regulations the church held them to for so many years.

Just my two cents.

Answer 7

It is a Quebec thing definitely!!!  My friends that were born and raised there will be the first to tell you that.  I'm not saying that Quebec don't have long lasting relationships or anything but i think they view marriage as money not well spent.  My friends told me that instead of having a wedding.  They instead went to Italy and bought a new flat screen TV.  Quebec people don't really practice religion like other country's do and marriage is pretty much just a religious thing when you think about it.   In regards to your BF,  good luck.