People in a 'in love' long term relationship, who makes the first move for love making?

Question

Do you the male or female make the first move, how do you normally do it, or is it different every time; do you ever get reject, how often, how do you deal with that?

Answer 1

sometimes its me... sometimes its him... and there are certain signs to see when the other is in the mood... the way we lay ontop of them when watching tv - or the clothes we wear/ not wear hehe

Answer 2

mmmmm ..

well its usually the guy in mosts cases and it depends how long youve been going out with the girl and it also depends on how old you guys are and what are her values. there are some girls out there who dont wanna have s*x till marriage and theres some girls who just want to wait till there in something serious. So if the girl wants to wait till marriage your probably gonna get  rejected but if she just wanted to wait till she was in something serious you probably wont because according to you you guys are in something serious  

Answer 3

Sometimes me, sometimes him.... depends on the mood!  There's no real 'rejection' cos sometimes one is tired or not in the mood and the other understands- but hey,theres always next time!

Answer 4

It just happens when it happens, if you get rejected don`t worry,

i had a 22 year marriege and was rejected so often that maybe 6 times a years was max!

watch out for the ice women!

some women look upon it as a bit (messy!)

not NOW though!!!  i can`t keep up!

Answer 5

From experience, I think it is something that happens naturally. If a couple are about to make love and the time is right, no words need to be said. They lean closer for a kiss, the kisses sizzle and before long the couple lead to the bedroom.

There were times my ex was keeping his distance physically if something was on his mind, but it was usually he that made the first move and I didn't ask him for some reason, which I no longer remember. I left it with him to approach me if he was feeling romantic and I knew the signs when he was interested. He was a lot more affectionate and didn't shut me out of his world, he would talk about things more openly with me.

When things were good between us, it was great. When there was silence, there seemed to be a whole ocean dividing us. Let things happen naturally. Someone always gets hurt when one is interested in lovemaking and the other is not ready. Sparks will fly when you are both wanting the same thing at the same time and it can only be special if it happens spontaneously.

Answer 6

If you are in a long term relationship, i'm surprised that you would have to ask this question. Either s*x can initiate love making and it's considered appropriate. Rejection should NOT happen very often, as the other persons feelings need to be considered and I, personally, would not tolerate it or "deal" with it very often.  

Answer 7

its a mixture of both.. i guess whoever is horny first lol

but i'd say it was him 70% of the time..

i've actually never been rejected, it might upset me a little at the time but then i'd realise that maybe he was tired or whatever.  hes not a s*x machine i guess ha ha.  if it happened quite often that i was rejected, or if he stopped initiating it then i would worry.

Answer 8

it depends. in a normal relationship, its a mix of both.about 75 % of the time my fiance starts it by doing something like massaging me or kissing me.the other 25 i start it. However, i have never been rejected bc each of mine were ina committed relationship

Answer 9

........usually the guys make the first move......if you get rejected....FORGET ABOUT IT......and think about the positive (^_^)