People say i have a "slick" mouth and i do. and that i'm rude. how to i get rid of that??

Question

okay. so i have slick mouth and i want to stop saying mean comments and stuff like that. its not getting me far in life and my step sister basically hates me 4 it. its just annoying cause i cant stop "being mean".

and we met some kids one day. and one of them already told me i have a slick mouth. and i only knew him for 10 minutes. thats SAD.

plzz help me.

and YES I HAVE TRIED THINKING B4 I SPEAK. IT DOESNT WORK.

and ive tried keeping it to myself. but it just comes out.

what the heck shud i do now???

best answer...

10 points comin ur way.

Answer 1

Well, it is called Self Control that you are trying to develop. Habits can be hard to break and it takes hard work to break them but, if you can stop doing that for 15 days then the habit should be broken.

So, when you meet someone maybe trying to come up with 3 good things about them. Everyone has good things about them, even the worst of us. And then tell them one good thing about themselves in other words pay them a compliment.

Another thing you might want to do, and this WILL be hard and WILL be painful. But, you need to figure out what you get out of being rude and mean. Right now you are coming to realize that people don't want to be around you because you are rude but, being that way has some sort of pay off for you and you need to figure out what that is. So, maybe for the next few days you can analyze how you feel when you are 'slick' or rude to someone.

Once you know what that payoff is from being rude then you can figure out how to get that same payoff from being nice. Once you figure out how to get that same payoff by being nice then make a plan of how you are going to modify your behavior to implement that plan. Maybe you will have to take it in baby steps but, you can do it. Maybe you can enlist your step sister to help you by reminding you to be nice. Or making a big deal over times you decide to say something nice instead of something rude. It will require constant vigilance though.

One thing that really bothers me in your question is that you deny being able to have any sort of self control. That is not true, only you can decide what you say and do. So, develop that self control and you will find a whole new you under there.

Answer 2

I've heard the snapping rubber band thing before and it never worked for me.  It just made my wrist hurt and got people asking me what the h**l I was doing when I'd snap it, and in my vague pain from snapping it, I'd be irritable and snap at them.  

Basically what worked for me was beating myself up about it.  It's a stupid method, but trust me, it will end up working.  Think about the nasty and slightly nasty things you say, over and over, and ask yourself over and over why you said them, and replay scenarios in your head where you said something you regret while inserting what you might have said.  Do this often enough with enough crushing guilt (and if you start doing this, the guilt will come) and your behavior will begin to change.  Trust me, trust me, trust me.

Answer 3

Well, you can become a speaker for a living like a Radio DJ or a talk show host or a stand-up comedian.  If it really bothers you, put a rubber band on your wrist and every time you slip and smart off to someone, just pop yourself with the rubber band (really hard).  This will get you to start associating pain with your insults and you will be more aware of how often you do it and will be able to control yourself.  Good luck.

Answer 4

I know how you feel.  It is extremely hard to hold back when you have a witty or smart @ss comeback for people's comments.  I can almost always think of a sarcastic comment for anything.  A blessing and a curse we have!

It is extremely hard, but you just have to stop yourself before it comes flying out of your mouth.  It doesn't happen overnight, it's like quitting smoking or dieting.  The more you work on it, the better it will get.

It may feel like you are not being yourself,but consider it a positive change as you won't be hurting people's feelings as much!  Best of luck!

Answer 5

It difficult, I have a horrible slick mouth too... Just watch what you say and how you say it.. It's hard to explain, but you just need to give respect as in not make rude comments and roll your eyes or anything.. ( I'm a big eye roller ) and I mean if you give respect you get it. It's a part of life.. It sucks. I hope I helped even a little bit. Oh and I don't know if you cuss or not, but try not to.. I get myself into trouble with it.

Answer 6

You have to decide in advance of the social situation how you are going to come across...start out with short situations like "dinner"...hold your tongue...get through it...and when it is over...let it out in the bathroom...later...much later

Answer 7

omgitsch,

            PRAY,PRAY,PRAY, ALOT!!!! God answer's all prayer's that are sincere!! May God Bless you and help change  your way's of living.And give you a "Happier Life!!" Smile!! He will change anything you sincerely with all your heart ask Him for!! Kid you not! Just have Faith, and believe your prayers!! Smile Be Happy!!

Answer 8

dont speak for a while, im not saying thinking before speaking, just try to limit your words.

Answer 9

Don`t stop being you, that`s a gift believe it or not. Most people wish they had snappy come-backs. When confronted people wish they could be sharp, cuz afterwards they say to themselves with regret: " I should`ve said this or I should`ve said that". KEEP IT UP!