People who have got over a break up? Someone you love so much, what helped you?

Question

Feelings that you could never Love anyone else. That You will never fall out of Love with this person. You would die for them if you knew you would see them again.

I'm a bloody male, and i'm strong person.. or so i thought. But this is HARD. Its the weakest i have ever felt in my life.

And whats worse of all, she lives behind me, literally.

Reason we broke up: Petty arguments that turned nasty.

She Loves me, she has told me this, but just won't talk to me. That's it. Over. All her friends hate me, i'm the bad boyfriend.. always the way because they only ever hear the bad times when someone needs a friend.

Just right now, i feel lost.

Answer 1

i broke up with my partner 2 weeks ago and i still don't know why ,he moved out because he has to cycle to work and was cycling 22 miles each way every thing was fine then he stopped answering the phone and i even went to see him at the hotel where he works but he said he was to busy to see me ,

The problem is he left me pregnant while I'm keeping the baby I'm now 9 weeks i will always love him and what helps me the most is i hope one day we will get back together  

Answer 2

It will get better.

Keep yourself busy, go out and socialise. Try not to Analise everything that happened. And don't place blame on other people.

Maybe if you leave her alone for a bit and just get on with things she might come round and speak to you again.

Answer 3

the way i got over my first love was by finding new love.

GOOD LUCK.

Answer 4

like you said man you are strong so the best is you go to your male friends am sure you have a best friend talk to him and just let go maybe some day you will give it another try.be strong dont show her you are hurting

Answer 5

FIRST LET ME TELL U IM NOT YELLING,,,I HAV 2 USE CAPS LOCK,,CAUSE I DONT SEE SO GOOD,,,NOW,,,I NO U HURT,,BU TI WOULDNT CALL IT OVER,,U SET DOWN N U WRITE HER A VERY LONG LETTER U POUR YOUR HEART OUT IN IT ,,U TELL HE RHOW U REALLY FEEL,,AND U GIVE IT TO HER  OR U MAIL IT TO HER,,U GIVE HER TIME TO READ IT,,AFTER SHE READS IT SHE WILL TALK TO YOU,,B PATIENT,,,AND SEND HER SOME FLOWERS,,I FU NO HER FAVORITE FLOWER ITS WOULD REALLY TOUCH HER HEART,,BU TI FU DONT SEND HER ONE SINGEL RED ROSE,,,GOOD LUCK...PEACE

Answer 6

You need a large funnel and several gallons of palatable vino. Hopefully too, a whole bunch of patient friends.

Love is a *****, and you will survive to stuff up again.  Just don't use up all your sympathetic buddies in one maudlin binge.

You can stretch this out for months. Even though the s*x is c**p it's cheaper than dating.

See if you can't find a fitness freak for your next gf. Spend most of your time jogging together. It's hard to fight when you're both panting for breath.

Cheer up, we all stuff up.

Answer 7

I am still going through the same thing.  This is so common, but time is what is needed.  This is the time to re-invent youself, do something you always wanted to do, like workout of you don't already, change something on the outside as we all know when we look good on the outside, we do feel better on the inside.  But time will heal you, I promise.  

Answer 8

Remember you are special and you will find your true love. People come into your life for a reason. Sometimes that person was never meant to be anything more than just a friend.  

Answer 9

Your feelings all sound normal to me in this type of situation. If you really love someone like that, you do not get over it, you learn to deal with it in time and that is OK. To help you deal, keep busy, see other people and do not dwell on the past with her. If it isn't working, let her go because you do love her and want her to be happy. Learn from the petty fights not to do that in your next relationship, don't get nasty, be kind, harsh words and the damage they do cannot be taken back, so learn to be careful with words, they do hurt.

If she ever does come around, get real in good honest conversation about how to make the situation better, what does she need from you and then you will have to be that way for her or she cannot remain with you, that is the bottom line. In the meantime, make yourself get on with your life, that is what it takes to deal with a break up.

Answer 10

Give her time.Meet her at a coffee shop with no friends.I recommend a sincear conversation.Don't fight stay calm and rational nomatter how bad you feel like loosing it.You want her back woo her and be nice you need to urn her trust.....I went threw something similar in the past but not the same....

Answer 11

What healed me? Time, only time heals.  You WILL get over her and find someone else again.  It happened to me.  It seems imposibble right now, but it will be possible in future.  It took me 3 years to get over my heartbreak.  Now i`m happily married with 2 lovely kids.  Believe me, the sun will shine again!

Answer 12

I`m sorry to hear of your break up, give yourself time it is the best healer....

Answer 13

I feel your pain. You will get over this. I am too in the same kind of situation. I dont know whether I will be able to love someone else. But I am coping well with this, see movies, music, write a journal, write about 100 qualities you want in your perfect partner, this will help you realise you are so lucky that it didnt work out.

Take care

Answer 14

Oh, you will see them again, and both of you will be friends again--- believe me.  You see, if she hinted that she loved you--- love never dies.  She is just probably tired (and you are too) of the battle for supremacy that both of you engage in.  Right now, she is trying to teach you a lesson--- "Don't try to be her boss!"  Well, both of you have a right to your opinions, but both of you like to be the boss. She is making you suffer for a while because she is tired of your ways.  

Change now--- just lay low a couple of weeks, keep calm, and see where the boat will land.  If there is another third party who has her full attention, you will find out.  And believe me, the relationship you and she had was never really resolved--- the question is-- Who will yield?--- Toni D.