Peoples perception of you, & your own opinion?

Question

Have you ever wondered what people think of you e.g. shy, funny, nice.

Have you asked any good questions to find out the true views. Not like what do you think of me, as thats a loaded question & they will not tell the whole truth.

Answer 1

its funny. i have actually asked that question, when i was younger.

as i grew older i realized that i have the kind of personality that makes people tell me what they think about me, whether i ask them or not.

i am confident in myself, and i focus more on what i think of them, because if i dont think theyre worth my time, then i really dont care how they feel about me.

if i decide that they are worth my time, then i also ( most of the time) dont worry too much on how they see me.

i am myself, all the time. i do not have any masks, so it would be very difficult to meet someone who misreads me.

Answer 2

I know people are scared of me because im insightful and blunt so if you dont want to know the truth dont ask. they think im a bit mad as im not conventional they consider me a free spirit as im not tied to any material things and can easily give up things and start again . I try never to let what people think of me sway any descisions i make one way or the other. I think im a well rounded personality

Answer 3

I often wonder what people think of me.  I don't think I've ever asked anyone what they think of me.  A lot of people whose perceptions I think about I don't know very well--professors, classmates, etc.--asking would be very awkward. :)  And I think about it less than I used to--life's just too short.

Answer 4

Since you've posted this under sociology, you might find Cooley and the Looking-glass Self interesting.

Answer 5

I don't really want to know what people think about. Ignorance is bliss.

Answer 6

i guess people think im shy, a loner, ugly

some people said that to me

Answer 7

I believe that if someone is truly honest with themself, they will already know how they are perceived by others.

In the case of being shy, someone will not be shy all the time.  Certain events might make someone shy.  For example, when a shy persons best friend comes around to their house, they won't be shy.  On the other hand when they walk into a room of strangers and find it hard "break the ice", they will know themself at that point that they are acting shy.  This is how they will be perceived by others at that point.  

To summarise: If someone wants to know how they are perceived by others then be honest with themself and look at yourself situations through the eyes of an outsider.  The imagination will nearly always come up with the answer.

I know I'm quiet, but not if I've got a point to make.  Sometimes, I have a bad habit of not listening when making my point.  The problem with this is, if I'm not listening to someone when trying to make my point, they probably won't listen to me either. I didn't ask someone for this information, I just imagined what it must be like having a debate with me.

In short, you will already know how people perceive you if you take some time to run through scenarios in your mind.

Answer 8

I used to be really shy and ultra concerned about what other people thought.  But one day I met a really cool woman who taught me to dance.  Since then, I have become totally confident, the kind of guy who goes into a club and gets on the dancefloor first, when everyone is sitting there waiting for someone to start dancing.  I know I am a great guy and I don't worry about what people think, because people who know me say I am great.  Don't get me wrong, I am not a hunk.  Far from it.  I am a 30something regular looking guy, a bit overweight.  I don't think of myself as God's gift to women. But I am pleasant and polite and (generally) humble.  But I do know for a fact that I am popular.

Answer 9

Since I don't know you personally, I can hold no opinion of you.

I have gotten to the place in my life when I just do NOT give a d**n about what others think of me. I'm comfortable with myself and that is all that matters.

Answer 10

I think people think I'm a bit stand-offish and stuck up, but I'm just shy

I hope that once people get to know me though, they realise I'm not so bad!

Answer 11

i don't worry but i do wonder how people see me. i tend to ask people things like am i too bossy or stubborn or even outspoken. most laugh and say they'd be lying if the said otherwise (and they're scared what I'd do to them. I'm normally a quiet but sarcastic person (in a funny way) but when something gets my back up i don't hold back.

Answer 12

I can honestly say that since I was about 11 I have not gave a c**p what other people thought of me. I was the type of person who would go talk to the kid no one else was talking to because I had a friend kill herself and I didn't want any other person to feel that bad. I guess I have never cared what other people thought I was just myself and if you liked me you liked me and if you didn't too bad.

Answer 13

yes  ...... but  really  don't  want  to  know.....  but....   get  told  anyway   ....

Answer 14

Not really because if they don't like me they wouldn't talk to me so i wouldn't care what they think.

Answer 15

I used to always wonder.  But it doesn't really pay to wonder.  I have to be me whatever they think.  You can tell a lot by a persons  body language.  If you're not sure because a person does not speak to you, take the time to speak to them.  Are you shy, funny and nice?  If so then most of the time that is what people will perceive.  Well except for the shy one.  Occasionally it gets screwed up with people thinking you are stuck up.  But with age and wisdom you will know how to tell what they think.  And people do lie all the time even if it is not meant to hurt out of habit more than anything else.  Have a nice day.

Answer 16

i don't care what anyone thinks of me. i credit avril lavigne for helping me improve my own self-confidence, and my i don't care attitude by listening to her songs like I Can Do Better off her new album and the rest of her songs as well. Haters need to get a life, especially some of the people i've come across on this site.

Answer 17

Yes, i wonder, but only about those who i feel i would want to continue being around, ones i look up to, respect, maybe even would like to emulate.Of these peole i have asked what they think i am like, they usually say, shy, backstage kind of helper, caregiver type and patient< lol, i do not agree with that, i am always praying for more patience!

Answer 18

I don't give a toss.

Answer 19

When I was younger yes, I did wonder what people thought of me, but not anymore ! I am older and wiser now, very comfortable in my own skin and I like me , so I don't really care that much what people think anymore to be honest ! I know I'm a good person, I never hurt anyone etc, and I don't care what they think because I don't really like most of them anyway !

My friends tell me what they think of me in many lovely ways, and my family, and that to me is the ONLY important thing !