I have an older sister who is in her 30's with a husband and 3 children (ages 14, 11, and 9). My sister is adopted (in my parents' country, there was a civil war and my mom basically just "found" her when during her toddler years amidst the chaos and raised her) and it's not a big deal to any of us at all. It never seemed important to any of us that she was adopted, so when she had children, she never disclosed to them that she was adopted and that we all aren't "blood."
Now that I have a family of my own, I'm concerned about how this will affect my nieces and nephew. Were we wrong for never telling them? Should we even tell them now? Won't they be angry and upset? I'm sure they'll react in much the same way any child would after finding out they're adopted...but in this case, their mom is the adoptee.
I wish I could say I could just leave it to my sister, but as far as I can tell, she has no intention of telling the children. What would you do in this situation? Thanks so much.
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