Phil.wedding is it awkward if we put in the invitations that instead of gifts(things),we much appreciate money

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Phil.wedding is it awkward if we put in the invitations that instead of gifts(things),we much appreciate money

Answer 1

It's tacky and classless.

Good luck

Answer 2

I would suggest sending out the invitation without mentioning gift or money. You're better off through word of mouth or have someone in your family tell people that you guys want monetary gifts. That's what I did for mine.  

Answer 3

it might be awkward but i guess on what type of person u r because it does make more sense and if their going to give u something might as well make it something u will actually use =)

Answer 4

I don't think its rude or awkward at all. I had the same problem after living together for years we had bought everything ourselves. We used a poem saying that we would rather have money instead of presents. I would rather give them what they want instead of wasting my money on something they won't use or like. I'm pretty sure your friends and family wouldn't mind at least its what you want and you can do what you want with it. I think the only downside could be is that you get to see what people think you are worth. It also really annoys the cheapskates.  

Answer 5

Don't do that, it's rude and tactless.  If you don't want gifts, don't make any registries.  Some people may get you a gift anyway, but then most people will give money.

Answer 6

it's extremely rude!!! eugh if people tell me that i don't even bother going to the wedding it's a wedding not a fund raiser  

Answer 7

Well for me it's alright to put  money as gift than in kind. Just being practical

Answer 8

I wouldnt think it was awkward. you're inviting friends and family, and they want to get you something you want. If you're young and starting out, then money is very pragmatic! Also it saves everyone having to go shopping, and wonder what to get you etc. It makes it easier for everyone. Just do it.

Wow...I can't believe five people gave me a thumbs down!? Is it that bad?

Answer 9

It's rude, tacky, and greedy. You do not ask for money on your wedding invitations or at any other time. You let guests give what they wish, if they wish, and you accept everything graciously.

Answer 10

It's rude. No mention of gifts (of any kind) should be on or with the invitations.

Answer 11

It's not only awkward, but rude and tacky as well.

Answer 12

YES, it's very rude to make mention of gifts at all in the invitation.  I received an invitation from a couple that said "In lieu of gifts, honeymoon funds are requested," and all anybody could talk about at the wedding was how tacky it was that they actually said that in their invitation.  Also, it doesn't work, because several people (including me) purposely bought them a regular gift instead, just for spite.

Answer 13

Asking for money is rude, plain and simple. Gifts should be accepted with grace no matter what they are. And it is bad ettiquette to mention gifts at ALL on your invitation.  

Answer 14

I don't think it is rude, I think it is practical. I have been to several weddings lately and all had either a registry card or wishing well card included. A good idea is to have both a wishing well and a gift registry for those who don't like to give money. Don't write it ON the invitation instead include a card in the envelope with a poem such as:

In our house we have the things

That living together normally brings

Most household items we’ve already bought

And because of this reason we thought

A wishing well would be great

(Only if guests wish to participate)

A gift of money is placed in an envelope

So in the future we hope

To furnish our home to its very best

And always remember it was

due to our guests

Answer 15

My fiance and I faced this very same question.  

We have lived together for the past 5 years, so when it came time to register we felt that we didn't need any tea towels or bed linens, we already had these things.  What we did need was help to pay for the installation of a new furnace and new insulation in our attic.  Unfortunately you can't register for these things at Sears or Pottery Barn.

We didn't put anything in our invitation about gifts or a registry.  What we did was wait for our invitees to contact either us or our parents to ask where we were registered.  At that point we explained that we were hoping to do some major home repairs and that if they wanted to contribute with a donation we would really appreciate it.

I don't think we offended anyone.  I guess we'll know in 15 days.

Good Luck, whatever you do.

Answer 16

Its not awkward. Its rude.