Physical traits to tell if he's your son or not?

Question

My brother's ex girlfriend is trying to say that her son is his (they we're engaged but then split up....then got back together - soon to tell him she was pregnant). Anyway, she admitted to sleeping around and we find it suspcious that she became pregnant so soon after getting back together (a few weeks). Well they've been broken up for over a year and she still tries to find him and collect money (threatens child support, but won't do it when told to go ahead and do it). He asked for a DNA test, but she wants to make him pay for it - which he dosen't want to (he dosent think its his! ...so she needs to pay for it...which she won't).

Anyway, long story short: What are physical traits that boys recieve only from thier father that we can look for? We have pictures of the boy at a year old, but don't know what to look for. Afterall, I've been told I look like the daughter of people I'm not even related to (friend's moms).

I ask this because, if I remember correctly from biology class, isn't there certain traits that children take from thier dad only? As well as certain traits that only come from thier mom? Or am I confusing more X,Y X,X combos that take effect if more of?

I hope this dosen't come off too confusing.

But please help if you have any information that helps.

(We don't want contact with her, unless we are at least a little sure there could be a possibilty from apperance.

Answer 1

Im a momma and my son looks NOTHIN like me : (  and everything like his daddy but its ok because hes a very good looking toddler. I would say only a dna test would actually tell you if he is infact really his child. Even if my and my BF split up which we havent  there would be no way for him to deny his son lol. Maybe he has his hands/feet or ears?? thing like that?  

Answer 2

Take her on Maury to see. You know he's always finding out who the baby's daddy is. I mean there aren't any traits, but if your brother might be the father he needs to get the test done so that the little boy can have him in his life and vice versa. It comes down to a matter of pride, but no matter what the outcome, it shouldn't be taken out on the kid that his mom doesn't know for sure who the dad is, I mean, give the kid the benefit of the doubt until a test proves him to be your brothers or not.  

Answer 3

Where I live, the state will pay for the paternity/dna testing unless the man is the father, and if the results say that he is the father, then he has to pay for it...  I'd say it's worth the 500 for the test if he's not the father either way, it's cheaper then child support for 18 years... A lot of kids dont look like their fathers...  It isn't the X's and Y's it's what is more dominant in that child.

Answer 4

okay, my daughter looks like her father, my oldest son and my granddaughter look like me and and my youngest son looks like she could be my sister's child. DNA testing is the only sure fire way to rule out or confirm testing and for the child's sake, it should be done regardless of who wishes to pay for what. Your brother can petition the courts for the paternity test with a provision that if the child is not his, that the charges for the test be paid by her.

Answer 5

How old are you? There are no specific traits that children get from either one parent or the other. Tell your brother to man up and pay for the test. If the child is his he should feel bad for wasting all this time not taking care of his child. If it's not, then he should not worry about the money and just chalk it up as a lesson learned. Wear a condom all the time every time. Unless your married

Answer 6

No there is not a particular thing that must resemble the father, in fact a child may look nothing like the father but still be the real child.  Just go and get a court ordered dna test.  Its very simple.  Pick me as the best answer.

Answer 7

A DNA test is the only way to tell for sure. The baby could have traits that look like him or could take after his mom. You cannot tell by looking. In most places if he signed the birth certificate he is legally responsible for the child anyway. My advice is to have him pay for the DNA test and if it is his then he can take it off the back child support and if its not eiether send her a bill and insist she pays it or just eat the $200 and you wont have to worry about it ever again! good luck!

Answer 8

If she takes him to court to get child support, the court is going to order that a DNA test be done.  Some states pay for the test up front, and the manhas to reimburse for the test if he's the father.  In other states, the man has to have it done and make whatever financial arrangements he needs to make to get it done by the court's deadline.

But here's a problem your brother is facing.  You don't tell us how old the baby is, only that they've been broken up for over a year.  So this baby *could* be your brother's, and your brother has made no effort to support the baby for ... a few months?  A year or more?  If a court orders a DNA test and he IS the father, he doesn't just have to pay child support for the future; he also will have to pay child support for all these months that he's been saying it isn't his baby.  Family court judges do not rule favorably for men who skip out on supporting a child just because the man thinks it isn't his but doesn't want to pay for a DNA test.

On the other hand, if the test shows it isn't his baby, the judge can require the mom to reimburse your brother for the test.  And then she still has to figure out who the dad is and get him tested.

There aren't any physical characteristics that pass from father to son.  The child gets half his genes from his mom and half from his dad.  The exact mix of parental genes determines the child's physical characteristics.  That mix of genes changes with each child a couple has, which is why some sons look like their mothers while their sisters look like dad, and in other families all the kids look like Great-Uncle Matthew on Mom's side of the family.  My grandson is 21 months and right now he looks more like my youngest brother than like his own mom or dad.  Acts like my brother did too, the goofy kid.  :-)

I know a DNA test is expensive, but it's the only way to get this cleared up.  Maybe it would be worthwhile for you and your parents and your other siblings to pitch in together to pay for the test just to get it over with.

Oh, and one last piece of advice:  If this is your brother's baby, he needs to go to court to have child support and custody issues determined, and he always needs to pay child support by check.  If he hands his ex cash, there's no proof he gave it to her and she can go to court to swear he isn't paying.  Canceled checks prevent that.  (Some states require that child support be sent to the family court, and they record the payment and forward it.)  Also, if he and his ex make a verbal agreement about how much he pays and how often he sees the baby, there's nothing in writing that can be enforced by the courts.  So steer him in the right direction if this is his child, and get everything done through the courts so his own rights are preserved.

Good luck to all of you.

Answer 9

Odds are, the traits that are most dominant in boy children, in regards to what comes from dads, you wont be able to tell from a pic.  Most of the boy children in our family look like the moms and act like the dads. Tell your cheapskate brother to pay for the test, and if the child is not his, sue her on judge judy for a refund.

Answer 10

the only way to tell is a DNA test. If she wants support money then she needs to prove he is the father.  

Answer 11

dna test is the only way to know for sure

Answer 12

He still might be his son, even if they do not look anything alike!

My husband was very dominant with our 2 kids, they look nothing like me at all. Although my sisters kids (all 3) look absolutely nothing like there father! You could put them kids in a line up with there father and other men, and NO one would pick the real father!

So my advice to you is, get the DNA test done, your family is wasting time with this child, if it is his! Time you can not get back! And the only one that is truly paying for this is that little boy.  

Answer 13

My son has my hair color, my nose,my freckles,my lips, and even my facial structure.   The only thing he has from his dad is his eye color... mine are blue his and his dads are hazel....if i didint know better id doubt he was the dad lol but luckily that is not the case.. he just picked up my traits... mine where more dominent, to bad my blue eyes werent dominent :(   The only real way to know is a dna test, you can not make an opinion strickly off appearances.  The courts can order a DNA test, if the child is not his, he does not have to pay for it.

Answer 14

The DNA test is the only way to know.  My younger son looks nothing like his father, i mean nothing.  He looks like my mom mostly and a little of me and some of my other family but not his father.