Pick one: Me or him?

Question

I am 17 years old and currently I live with my dad and little sister. My mom doesnt live with us but sometimes she gives me and my sister some allowance IF she can.

Of course since its just my dad...he has to pay the bills and that has always been stressful and still is.

Whenever I get money, I usually "lend" him the money,but I still havent seen some it back(he just doesnt have it,i guess).

I mean this is my last year of high school and I have senior AND junior dues to pay;homecoming stuff;and I want to save for a car of my own,

I also get money from another family member occasionally...but I SAVE this money b/c Idk where the next $ is going to come from.

Yes,I am currently looking for a job.

But I feel like I cant reach my goals by giving my Dad mone. At the same time I feel like if I have enough time to save this crucial money I can get a car and stuff...that will be better for the family in the long run. Dont you think I should be able to have money for myself to grow?

Please share your opinion.

Answer 1

I think its sweet that you give your dad money but you need to think about you. Hes your parent and he should take care of you, not the other way around. Just like its not your job to give him a curfew but its his job to give you a curfew....you get what Im saying? What I would do is maybe pay off some of your dues then give your dad some money...you have to take care of you first. Im sure your dad would want that for you, right? If nothing else go talk to your guidance counselor  and see what he/she can do for you. Good Luck and have fun your last few years of school :)

Answer 2

I think if your going to live with your father, then you should help him out if you can. I understand that you want a car and all that other stuff, but it isn't like your dad isn't doing his best. Money is tight these days, and helping out family is always important.  

Answer 3

I can see how hard this is for you. It good to help your dad out when you can. I'd say, keep some money in your savings, but offer when you can. Your Dad is struggling and you need to keep something for yourself. Once you get a job, that might help out too. Maybe you can pick up a little bill, or just buy what you can to help out. good luck.

Answer 4

It's not your obligation to give your father money. Does he ask for it himself? Does he really need it?

You have a right as an individual to have money and save up for what you want. Maybe you can cut down on the amount you give him. Talk to him, one on one, and tell him that you need to start saving money.

Good advice: Take 10% of every single thing you make and save it. Save it, and don't take ANY out, until retirement. That way, when you're older, you'll be well off and you could even help you own children.

You should start saving as soon as you make money. 10% isn't a lot, but it accumulates and is a lot in the long run.