Picking up a six year old?

Question

I always thought that when a child reached school age they were generally not picked up to be carried around anymore. Still, I have been spending time with my six year old niece lately as I will be adopting her soon and it seems that she is accustomed to having her father pick her up and carry her. Should I try to break this habit or is it not a big deal?

Answer 1

It is a good and healthy habbit to continue. This will help you two bond. Congradulations on the adoption, a young girls relationship with her "father" is soo important in preventing them from permiscuity and partying.  

Answer 2

My 5 1/2 year old still wants to be picked up on occassion, so i don't see any difference there.

Answer 3

I would carry her sometimes.Like when you are sitting down.I would not lift her while you are standing cause what happends if she is too heavy> then you hurt yourself. I would explain to her that she might not been too heavy beore but now she is too big. Maybe tell her that she can sit with you all she wants when you are sitting down. I would not think that it might harm her, she will learn that there is rules to things. I dont know about not being able to hold them... Or it being a big deal that she is being held. I know when my son is 6 i will not be able to lift him. he will be too big. as of right now he is getting  a bit heavy. but he is welcome to sit with me when i am sitting down!  

Congradulations on the adoption.  

Answer 4

hmmm i thought it was measured on weight as to when you stopped carrying a child...My daughter is 5, but i still carry her...I just love to hold her...life's too short.

Answer 5

If you are adopting her, so she has lost her daddy in some way for death or by him needing someone else to take responsibility. Good for you to adopt her!!!!  And she wants you!!!!  Its sweet, innocent and let her stop when she wants, or she's just too heavy. lol My son wants me to pick him up, but he's 8 and comes up to my arm pits. impossible. lol I dont mind...they are young, no matter how big they are in body... She needs lots of cuddles. Imagine how scary it is to be adopted at 6. XX

Answer 6

my son will be 6 in about 2weeks, i no longer pick him up.

he still likes to sit on my lap sometimes.

or sometimes he will just sit real close to me.  like on the sofa instead of sitting on the other end, he will come and sit hip to hip.

Answer 7

Well, I really don't think its a big deal and as a matter of fact, there will come a time VERY soon that either you won't be able to physically pick her up anymore, or she will not want you to! Life is way too short and they grow way too fast. We still carry our 6 1/2 around on occasion, especially if we're at an amusement park or just for the sake of doing it! She is very tiny for her age an weighs only 35 lbs though, so that makes a difference!

Answer 8

I wouldnt pick her up and carry her around.  She is perfectly capable of walking.  If you pick her up for a hug, or while playing around I don't see anything wrong with that.  Kids grow up too quick, enjoy it.

Answer 9

She is far to old to be carried around, you need to let her no she is no longer a baby she is a big girl, and big girls don't get carried around. She will get over it.

Answer 10

Its not really a big deal but she is getting a bit too old for carries, not to mention most likely big and heavy to be carried around. Maybe do it once in a while playing around but not carry her to school or shopping or anything like that.