Plans on giving her baby to her boyfriend?

Question

I take college class for pregnant woman so a lot of the time we all talk about this or that with one another well to day one of the girls my age 21 said when she has her baby she giving it up to her boyfriend... I thought she was joking at first she seems so happy she said she will get the baby back when its 1 yr old i think that is wrong what do you think... any why she is only about 13 weeks too,

Answer 1

What she doesnt want to deal with a baby? She only wants it when its a toddler? Geez, I hope the dad knows what he is doing and keeps the baby for good if this if the way the mom is going to be already...*****!

Answer 2

to each of their own...

Answer 3

I have a feeling that she'll change her mind.

Answer 4

Maybe that's what's best for her right now. If she's still in college, she probably just needs to get her life on track first so she will be able to give it the best care possible. It's not for us to judge.  

Answer 5

SHE'S SAYING THAT BUT WHEN SHE SEES HER BABY FOR THE FIRST TIME SHE'LL SURELY CHANGE HER MIND BUT IF SHE DON'T TELL HER TO WRITE A LIST OF HER PROS AND CONS OF LETTING HIM RAISE HER BABY AND THE SAME ABOUT HER  

Answer 6

The absolute BEST THING FOR THE BABY IS ADOPTION!!!!

Answer 7

If the boyfriend is in a better position to provide for the child for the first year, she's doing the best for the baby.  What's wrong about admitting that someone else can do a better job???

Answer 8

I wouldn't be surprised if she changed her mind!! before I had my son I always said if I knew someone that couldn't have a baby I'd carry it for them...but now I know I couldn't ever give away a baby I grew!

But if she does give her b/f the baby unless they have legal documents about their agreement then she wont get her baby back!

Why is she going to give her baby to him? will she not be able to handle the demands of a new born? If that's the case then I doubt she'd be able to handle the demands of a one year old.

Or is she taking the year to finish school and get a good start at a good life for her and her child? Too each their own but that seems sooo... odd to me! You should ask her if she has looked into the legal aspect of what she is considering. Maybe this is what she truly feels is best for her child and in that case good for her for being a strong enough person and so selfless to do that. On the other hand she could be being lied to and misled/misinformed....

Answer 9

I dont know if it is wrong, but I cant imagine bonding with a baby and giving it away after a year .. good luck!

Answer 10

Wow! That is crazy. She will probably change her mind once she gives birth. If she doesn't see her baby for a year he won't even know who she is and he will just want his daddy. That is just so stupid. What about breast feeding? How could someone just give there baby away for the first year?

Answer 11

He is the father.

I don't see the problem if it allows her to finish college.  She just has to be careful because after a year he may not want to give the baby back.

My husband would NEVER EVER give our girls back if I did that.  He adores them like he adores nobody else in the universe.

Answer 12

That's not right, you can't just give someone your baby and then expect it back later on. Doesn't work like that. Unless her boyfriend is all for it, then whatever. She's going to have to expect that, that baby will not recognize her.

Answer 13

is she thinking of the well being of her child????  A baby is not a puppy, you can't just "swap" owners without upsetting the child.  especially at a year old!! come on!

Answer 14

Gee that's just awful a daddy that loves their baby.

Babies need a consistent caregiver -be it mom, dad or grandma.  Mom can have visits.  

Answer 15

I think without the full story, who are we to say anything.