Please, I'm being serious with all my heart...

Question

How does s*x hurt a guy? I'm still a 14 yr old virgin yes, but I mean, it would have to hurt right?! But what about guys? How DOES it hurt them huh? Just curious. And not including the wips and scratching and bruising. lol! I mean the actual original intercourse...

Sorry you're probably saying "eww" or something. But please answer this!

And question 2: Do you think puberty is worse on girls or guys, and then think of overall life (like childbirth and mid life crisis and stuffs)

I'm not sexist. I'm just starting to ask questions after thinking to myself...I really need to stop doing that! XD

Answer 1

I’d say for the average boy or girl, it does hurt the very first time. Especially if one or other is not ready for it, is under stress for some reason or is misfit or ignorant in some way.  The male organs are pretty sensitive, and being on the outside, could be injured. If you’re asking about the girl's first time - yes, it may not be too enjoyable initially, for the physical aspects of the act, like the hymen breaking, v****a expanding, etc.  

Puberty is an awkward phase of life for girls and boys. Girls have the obvious periods to deal with, but boys have hormone-driven cycles too, though it’s not so obvious. Secondary sexual characteristics begin to develop in both at this time and if many girls feel gawky, under-confident and have low self-esteem, its similar to what many boys go through. But the changes that happen to girls may have more of an effect on them.

Childbirth is an intense experience – ‘agony and ecstasy’ might describe it somewhat. She goes from being a girl to becoming a mother at every level – physical, mental, emotional. Some find it scary, some fulfilling.

Men and women both go through the mid-life crisis. Again for women the inability to bear further children naturally is more obvious, with the periods being over. For men, less obviously, the sperm counts decrease. Both begin to lose their looks. But this doesn’t mean that they – women and men - can’t be sexually active any more. The desire for s*x and the ability to intercourse can continue.

Don’t be afraid to ask questions. It’s better than trying to get by with misconceptions, trials and errors. You need the knowledge to make informed choices later.

Answer 2

Are you sure this is the forum you want to ask these questions on?

There is a section called 'women's health' where you would get more information about puberty.

In answer to your questions, however,:

1) There are many ways s*x can hurt a guy. The most obvious would involve some damage to the p3nis as a result of intercourse or s3xual activity ~ friction 'burns' if lubrication is insufficient, bruising and muscle damage if positioning is not correct, and damage to the erect p3nis itself if, for example, the f******n does not draw back properly.

S3x can also hurt guys emotionally, if they are not ready for it but feel they *should* be because they think all their mates really are doing the things though boast about (they're usually not). S3x is a lot more than a physical act, especially for young people, and both girls and guys can hurt themselves emotionally and psychologically by getting involved in things they are not ready for.

2) Each of the different stages of life presents challenges for both men and women.

For girls, puberty problems might seem more obvious, because there are many outward signs, and learning how to manage and deal with menstruation, plus breast and bodily growth, are so overwhelming as developments on a personal level, but it is definitely not an easy time for boys, either.

Many boys have constantly aching limbs as their bones grow and are laughed at and told it's "just growing pains" if they mention it. Their bodies take them on a weird ride of hormonal uncertainty ~ voices might 'break' and their faces sprout mountains of zits, and they can feel terribly embarrassed and humiliated by it all.

There are comparable 'treats' ahead for each gender as time passes.

It's not a competition and trying to make it so only makes it more difficult for us to share information and care for each other as human beings.

Good on you for asking questions ~ that's one thing that's it's good never to stop doing :-)

Best wishes :-)

Answer 3

To thing: Wouldn't help for her to ask in the men's health area rather than the woman's health area....you know...since we men DO have a p***s :).

Well, I wouldn't know how to answer the first one but then again *shrug*

Anyway..for the second question...I really don't think there should be a competition with it...While girls may go through many different changes as far as their bodies and stuff while going into puberty, they are embraced more than boys...at least that's how I feel anyway.

Dunno why you're being serious with all your "heart" though..it's not that big of a deal.

Answer 4

s*x doesn't hurt guys.  It only hurts women sometimes if they are really tight from having never had s*x before. But some women are naturally loose so it never hurts them. And even when women are tight at first, the tend to get stretched out after having s*x a few times so it stops hurting anymore. Although, it can still hurt women even after they've done it a thousand times if the man is trying to get in when the woman is not completely warmed up and lubricated.

As for puberty, it's probably worse on girls because they have to deal with getting their period. Boys don't really have any major issues that come up during puberty. The only thing that can make puberty bad for boys is if they are a "late bloomer", which means that they don't physically mature as fast as the average boy, and so they are stuck looking like a dorky little kid while everyone else is a big, cool teenager. True, some girls are late bloomers too. But it seems to be much more common for boys. Puberty can also be bad for boys because they start to get EXTREMELY horny and they want s*x SOOOO bad but it's almost impossible to get because the girls at that age aren't "ready" and don't want to have s*x. So it can be almost like torture for boys to have this powerful, instinctive desire that goes unfulfilled for years before they finally manage to get lucky.

In overall life, I still think it's better to be a man. Because 1.) men don't have to go through being pregnant and child birth. 2.) men seem to age slower and are still considered attractive at older ages, while women start to get considered "old" much earlier in life. 3.) Women have to go through menopause, which is like getting their period for the first time all over again except it's the opposite. Their body goes through all sorts of weird changes again. 4.) Women's clothes seem to be much less comfortable than men's clothes. 5.) Women have to deal with putting on makeup and styling their hair. 6.) Some women feel that they get less respect throughout life than men get. 7.) In modern American culture, a lot of people consider a woman to be fat if she is any thicker than super-skinny. Men, on the other hand, are considered "healthy" and viewed as big and manly when they are a little chubby.

Answer 5

s*x doesn't hurt any guys physically, but some of us actually will regret it emotionally later.

Sigh.

Answer 6

no, it doesn't hurt us, its fun!  

Answer 7

usually happens ........ sometimes girls get tooo much aroused that they cannot control themselves ....they start ******* when guy does not wants ........ this hurts.......but people think guys always want s*x.....which is incorrect .........and when you girls **** too hard its painful...........a decent intercours is ok for both...believe it or not but its true........who cares......

Answer 8

(ATTENTION: Modern Feminists, please pretend (selectively) that you don't see this.)  

Coitus can result in a number of injuries to the male including but not limited to intra-scrotal injury (testicular torsion, haematoma, torsion of the gubernaculum, etc.).

A complication of coitus that is seen in the West is Penile Fracture & Trauma.  (I can't provide a direct link to this phenomenon as it may or may not constitute a violation of Guidelines, but if you're interested, you may, at your own discretion, choose or not choose to do an search for "penile fracture & trauma, Richard A Santucci, MD, FACS" or you can simply choose not to do so.  Again for the deliberate sake of redundancy and in the interest of completely, utterly, redundantly redundant and unnecessary political correctness pretend that you don't even see this text and do nothing further.  Essentially you can choose to selectively block out information that's readily available to you or not.  This is called "choice" in standard English, but I don't know if standard English is politically correct as per current modern Feminist dogma, so I can't speculate.

Nonetheless, the sequelae of penile fracture can, indeed, be devastating and if there is any indication of blood at the meatus, virtually any urologist will do a urethrogram to exclude a external urethral tear as this is exceedingly difficult to repair beyond the repair of the penile fracture.  Failure to diagnose external urethral damage, in this context, would invariably represent deviation from Standard of Care in the West, so I imagine most urologists have a rather low threshold for performing urethrography.  Even following the timely surgical treatment of penile fracture, there is a high prevalence of erectile dysfuntion, penile deformity and that like.

In the West, we see this most commonly in the context of coitus wherein the female is heavy and aggressive coitus leads to such damage (the is refered to in the literature as "heavy girl on top," and although it may not be a PC term for the mechanism, it's quite precise and a concise description for the mechanism).

Penile fracture is a far more prevalent phenomenon in the middle East where young men involve themselves in unusual auto-erotic practices where they engage in various maneuvers during masturbation (again possibly an unacceptably and/or politically incorrect term as per modern Feminism) and result which result in cavernosal injuries.  These are seldom seen in the Western world.

With respect on the emotional toll of puberty, it's highly subjective and not gender-specific.

NB: Any spelling or syntactical errors are the result of human error, and are not the intention of the author to offend the community or modern Feminists.  Such errors are not the result of an attempt to oppress women or limit women's rights, rather such syntactical and/or spelling errors represent human error and nothing beyond that.  This disclaimer should not be regarded as inherently offensive to modern Feminists as it is unclear whether it may or may not constitute a vilation of political correctness and otherwise be or not be in violation of the present terms of modern Feminism.

I will, apologetically, limit this discussion to the material contained herein in the interest of political correctness and not offenind modern Feminists, whilst at the same time attempting to answer a question as best I can (of course, without upsetting modern Feminists).

Again, all apologies are extended and offense or lack thereof that the above information may or may not have resulted in with respect to modern Feminists.

I urge that modern Feminists selectively pretend that they can't read this in their self-serving interest of selective ignorance of easily recognizable data, again, in accordance with modern Feministic Dogma.

The above information could've easily been summarized in about 3 sentences, but in the era of modern Feminism, I'm so confused that I can't provide coherent information in a concise manner as the rules of modern Feminims are so confounding that it boggles the mind, and so I'm forced to go on and on about nothing substantive whatsoever in preserving the sanctity of the brilliant interest of modern Feminism.

I apologise, in advance, for any offense this may or may not cause to modern Feminists.

Have a good day (but let's be clear on this:  this is OPTIONAL, i.e. a prerogative, as it's not intended to be a statement of offense nor oppression, rather an option to the modern Feminist).

Answer 9

no, it doesn't hurt.. if inserted fully-erect, and there is enough lubrication. actually,  a good amount of vaginal-wall resistance can help maintain the arousal..

i'm being honest.. with all my heart.

Answer 10

A guy can get friction burns, torn skin and a hernia.

EDIT, Oh good, I'm offending the PC brigade again.

Answer 11

i think puberty is harder on females........HELLO........ PERIODS!

they suck.