Please, please help. im having problems with depression?

Question

ok so im 13 years old. during the day im a normal 13 year old, very energetic and happy. my problem is i have alot of trouble falling to sleep. so i just lay in bed thinking about stuff. this is where deprssion hits. unfortunatly all my thoughts lead to stuff like death. see i love my parents really much they are really nice and caring to me. when i lay in bed, all i find myelf thining about is wat will happen when they are gone. and i really dont want to think about those awful days when they wont be there to support me and be by my side. and then i start to tear up and get more sad and depressed. please, please some1 help me. i wanna know what i can do about this. i dont wanna have to be thinking about this every night when i go to sleep, i mean, come on im only 13 years old i dont wanna have to thin about this stuff. please help, wat can i do? is there something else i could thin about in bed to distract those other horrible thoughts? thank you to all who answer-

kevin

Answer 1

Its all right kid

tell your mom you can't fall asleep at the night

ask her to buy you some Advil Sleeping Pills

they will nto give any side affects

do not drink anything that has caffeine

and do tons of sporsts that will get you tired

good luck kid!

Answer 2

Hi Kevin, your anxiety is not uncommon for teenagers, but you need to get help for it because it's keeping you from getting sleep and causing your depression.  Lack of sleep will cause depression in anyone- no matter how old you are because you brain cannot function correctly.  You should tell your mom what is happening---she will understand and you probably should see your family doctor to make sure that you don't have a medical problem causing your depression and inability to sleep.  Sometimes it's as simple as your thyroid gland making you "hyper" and all you need is a medication.  I agree with the other people answering-- cut out caffeine and sugar intake...they will only keep you up longer.  Try listening to soft music to distract you to fall asleep or the tv on low...but talk to your mom....

Answer 3

i know exactly how u feel at least your adressing your problem early. i would stay away from sleeping pills. though there is a natural vitamin called "melatonin" which i have used for a year when i was diagnosed with chronic insomina.  it can be bought at any store in the vitamin section.

as far as the depression goes, i was having similar problems since i was 12, im 16 now and a little better but my issues are more in the self-confidence area.  it got to the point where i went two consectutive days with no sleep, and was like a zombie (age 15). i decided it was time to do something i was staying up all night crying about my familys problems, my problems, etc. even though if you knew me in school or family, you would think i would never shed a tear.

so i can relate to those feelings. the way im still currently dealing with them is by finding someone you can really trust and that wont judge you and talking to them about it. i started telling one of my long time friends about my problems, and now i dont feel as bad. its all about getting those feelings out because when you let them fester inside they take over you, and you may feel as if you have no control over anything at all. the truth is we will all die one day you will have to come to terms with that fact eventually. i had a very close friend die about a year ago at 15, but i dont cry because i know how he would want me to carry on. i know it sounds cheesy but it really is true. but would you parents want you to worry about them? of course not. hope this helps

Answer 4

I know what you mean. When you're in bed and have nothing but your thoughts to keep you company, it can get depressing fast if your thoughts are fear based. You're fearing your parents not being there anymore. You're worried about what's going on in your life. You're even anxious about your thoughts about being anxious. Yes, this could be depression, but I also think there's a lot of anxiety here. Can you get to a counselor? Can you get to a library to check out some books on anxiety disorders? I'm sorry you're going through such a tough time. The fact of the matter is that while your parents won't be here forever, worrying about that fact will not keep them alive a single day longer. If you're sad thinking about them going, then make it a point to form good memories right now. Go out of your way to spend time with them. Most everyone has to face this and other scary situations at some point. Trust that you can get through it. Make strong friendships that will be there as a safety net when you do lose your parents. Live your life to the fullest. Fear and worry will not keep you safe. Life happens regardless of whether or not you worry, so make it a point to see a therapist and get this under control. It'll get better!

Answer 5

Im sorry that you are feeling this way.  Talk with your parents about what you are feeling and why you are feeling this way.

Everyone who lives will die eventually.  In your case you have two loving parents who are caring and kind and who would like to see you happy.  My suggestion is that you make a lot of friends outside of your little family.  Make as many friends as you possibly can.  Socialise alot, go out with them, ask them out to movies, see if they want to come over to stay the night, etc.

The larger the group of friends you have, and the wider the number of friends with whom you have a deep relationship, the better.  This will ensure that one day, when your parents are gone, that you are not alone and dont need to feel alone.  That you have a wide network of support and that you have many people to talk with for as long as you want.  Best of Luck.

Answer 6

Regarding the sleep problem:

Get plenty of exercise during the day.

Avoid coffee & caffeine before bed.

Avoid sugar before bed.

Avoid loud music or scary films before bed.

Journal about your feelings before bed and pray to your Higher Power or God to take your problems for you so you can sleep.

Talk to a friend about your feelings each day so you won't bottled stuff up.

Eat healthy foods, but avoid huge meals before bed.

Listen to soft music before bed.

Read some inspirational literature before bed.

Get some lavender scented pillows.

Do some deep breathing.

Do some meditation.

Regarding the depression,

Here are some good ideas:

1. Do something that gets your heart rate up a bit like, walking, running, biking, and swimming.

2. Eat Whole, Organic foods like: Broccoli, Cabbage, Organic Brown Rice, Beans, Spinach, Sweet Potato, Apples, and other fruits and vegetables in their Natural State.

3. Avoid eating corn, white bread, white rice, white potatoes, candy, sodas, chips, and anything else that you already know you shouldn’t be eating.

4. Drink clean water as your beverage of choice. Avoid Fruit drinks and fruit juices (unless YOU juice them yourself)

5. Stop smoking, drinking beer & wine, and drinking coffee.

6. Get 8 hours of sleep each night.

7. Hang out with people who want to be healthy.

8. Avoid anything with High Fructose Corn Syrup.

9. Look into taking a multi-vitamin.

10. Check out this website for excellent health advice:

http://www.naturalnews.com/

Tone up the muscles:

1. Join a gym and get a trainer.

2. If you’re short on cash, start a light stretching & yoga regimen.

3. Do push-ups, and light dumbbell curls for the upper body.

4. As I said above, walk, run, swim, and or bike

5. Take an aerobics class, a yoga class, or some other fitness class.

6. Join the local YMCA.

7. Buy or borrow this book by Bill Pearl called GETTING STRONGER.

In the book, he describes everything you need for a great fitness plan.

8. Crunches & Curl ups for the abs.

Mental Health:

1. Get a friend to talk to each day about your feelings.

2. If you have some money or insurance, get a counselor to talk to.

3. Learn how to meditate.

4. Join a support group for the issue you’re dealing with.

5. Ask your Higher Self (or God) for guidance.

6. Start keeping a diary or journal about your feelings & thoughts.

7. Write a ‘gratitude’ list every night.

8. Do something that makes you happy each day like: listen to your favorite music, draw, paint, write, or anything creative.

9. Do something for someone else who needs help.

10. If the above suggestions don't improve your mental health, talk with your therapist about the possibility of taking some medication.

11. Check out the book FEELING GOOD by David Burns.

Take care of yourself

Yam King