Please, women's studies, give a man a hand?

Question

firstly let me say in advance i appreciate you reading this.

my girlfriend broke up with me over a month ago. we dated for a year. I can't stop thinking about her..i really do miss her a lot..and want her back. I became too needy..I didn't give her any space at all really..she's been really really busy this summer.

After the break up I tried to get back with her, she told me she just didnt want to date anybody at all right now...it got kind of intense for the both of us. I went home for a month now, we haven't talked that much..she was my best friend and i tried to keep talking like we used to but it wasnt going to happen. But when we do talk, I try to be the man and flirt with her..she flirts back..and we have a bet going over a board game when i get back which will result in either me giving her a long massage or her cooking me dinner for the evening.

Like what the heck? I know she's hanging out with other guys right now...but she says she doesn't want to date anyone (which i believe her..like we were always so honest to eachother..i can't see her lying to me..uhh girls would she? she's very religious). I don't want to do these things with her..because it will break my heart knowing I can't kiss the girl. At the same time, i want her back so badly..and feel I can be enough of a casanova to peak her interest again.

Do I have any chance of getting this girl back?? Or should I just reluctantly give up? I'm at a loss at what to do..i dont want to give her everything she wants while I am craving more. At the same time, I don't want to give up and lose any opportunity to get her back.

Thanks!

Answer 1

She's playing you. I know it's hard to do, but cut all ties with her and get on with your life. Some day you'll meet someone new who will be a better match and who not play games with you.

Answer 2

give up...  an quit bothering ur ex girlfrend....  she told u strait out she dosent want u an doesent want any guy....  she finaly wised up an realized shes doing jus fine on her own an dosent need a guy for anything....  so leave her alone an let her get on with her life.....

Answer 3

I'm sorry to tell you that when women break off a relationship they almost never want to get back together with the guy.  There are a few exceptions, but women don't generally take up with previous partners.

I really don't think you have a chance of getting her back, even if she sometimes flirts with you.  Flirting doesn't mean a woman wants to have a relationship - it just means she enjoys the game of flirting.

I think she's probably being honest with you about not wanting to date anyone at the moment.  But unfortunately I think that includes you.

I know it hurts, but you need to grieve for the end of the relationship and then move on.

Answer 4

Move on.

Answer 5

With all my break-ups, I've always tried to keep the friendship going.  I've always heard that, "I don't want to date anyone right now", nonsense.  No matter what, they always end up dating someone else and stop being my friend.  Move on.

Answer 6

Is it easier to remove a sticking plaster quickly or slowly?

It sounds like neither of you have the nerve to make the necessary final break, but it will just prolong the agony if you keep this stuff going.

Tell her why you are stopping seeing her, brood by yourself for a bit, talk to someone who will listen (not your ex!) and in a few weeks just decide to get on with enjoying your life.

Edit

LOL!  Or do what Deviant in a Sane Way says - NOT!!

Answer 7

Call her every half hour round the clock until she relents and sees the light and goes back to you.  Make sure you are masturbating while calling.  It's a can't miss strategy.

Answer 8

That's trash Anon:\

Sorry :\

Move on before she starts dating someone else and you become depressed.