Please Can Someone Help Me ?

Question

OK heres what I need advice for.

My mum is really ill and needs an operation but there is none to be a donar for her because she has something wrong with her blood.

She's under alot of stress because of her illness but my brothers making it worse by always argueing with her and acting like he's the boss.He's 15( a year older then me).

My dad left when I was 6 and put my mum into £75,000 of debt (which we still haven't paid of). And Last time me and my brother saw him I was 9 and my brother said to him "I don't care if you die you mean nothing to me".

My mum keeps saying things like "I may aswell lay down and die" and I got really upset so I typed my dads name into google and it came up with a company with his name and an email adress. I emailed him and he emailed back. But when I went back onto the site where I found his email adress it was a like a g*y thing selling models, and offerings to be whipped. :S

He said that he was sorry I found out about his business the way I did and said it isn't a g*y or even L*****n thing half of our customers are straight.

I told my mum I emailed and she got really upset. But I haven't told her about the g*y website thing I just said it was something about a bank.

And my dad sent me a £100 this summer. but I felt bad so I gavve £80 to my mum.

Thoughout the 5 yrs that I haven't seen him he's just sent cards with nothing in them and no returning adress on my birthday.

PLEASE HELP ME GUYS

ANY ADVICE WOULD BE HELPFUL

1 day ago

Additional Details

1 day ago

Ok my mum said I could only see my dad once she gets better....which could be as long as 20 years.

So my question is should I see him or should I stand by my mum?

1 day ago

The Donar HAS to be someone from her family her parents are dead...my brother and me aren't old enough to donate ours...her brother was supposed to come over but hasn't and my dad doesn't know that my mum is termanelly ill.

Should I tell him?

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Answer 1

If you want some answers, try the "family and relationship"section or the "health"section.

Good luck to you.

Answer 2

First of all, you posted this question in the language section.

Secondly, this question is too long.

Answer 3

I would tell your dad that your mum is ill if I were you. Your brother in particular sounds like he is handling it all very badly and who knows? Maybe his dad could finally come through for him. You sound very mature and are doing a good job of giving moral support to your mum. Just because you are writing to your dad doesn't mean you aren't standing by her.