Please Help! Absolutly Furious MIL Whipped my 3 year old daughter

Question

I cannot believe this, I should never have left her alone with that vile witch. She has always been crazy and can sometimes downright cruel showing my neices and nephews money dangling it above their heads saying that they can't have it. She had been wanting to see my daughter for 2 years, I thought we would do the visit and never see that creature again. I was stupid me and my husband went out for dinner leaving them alone with my 3 year old. Well with nobody paying attention to her/ not letting her play with the toys we brought because everyone was soposed to be watching the news. (First off I never allow my children to watch the new horrible gahstly stuff which I don't want to expose them to since they are all under 7) But when my daughter would not sit still they made her go pick out a belt and whipped her 6 times on her bare bottom.(they told me this) There are no marks of abuse, but I am FURIOUS that is my baby nobody touches my baby like that. What should I do? I want to call the cops but since there are no marks and husband won't let me. What should I do. My baby is afraid of her own grandparents now.

Answer 1

I do not think that reporting abuse to the police would have any effect as there must be proof, unfortunately, of the abuse.  However, your husband should be the one to reprimand his parents or mother and if he doesn't then it must be your job.  Never allow any of your children to be with these people unsupervised by you.  Keep in mind that if your husband does not say anything to his mother about this then he probably would not say anything if he witnessed such an act in person.  The best advice: never leave your child with anyone you don't ABSOLUTELY  trust.

Answer 2

I agree with rooney. and tell her not to hit your kids anymore and don't allow her to be alone with them anymore

Answer 3

my mil did this but she hit her back so hard it knocked me against the wall(i was holding my dgt).  she only saw her grandkids a couple times after that and that was when she was in the hospital unable to get up and touch them

Answer 4

NEVER allow your daughter unsupervised with them again.  She is your child, and just because your husband may see no problem with it, you have the right to keep her away.  That family sounds crazy - I'm so sorry.

Answer 5

There are no marks so it wasn't that bad.

Don't leave her there anymore.  You stated she's crazy and you still left her there, it's more your fault then there's.  Pay for a babysitter.

Answer 6

my mil is a bittc too and she lives in ohio, we live in cal. I don't even send her PICS of my kids. That's how much I hate her. She has no visitations or contact with my children.

You do the same. If your husband has a problem, it's his not yours. You are the mother and you make the rules about the kids. DON'T EVER LET THAT WITCH NEAR YOUR CHILD AGAIN....your hubby can kiss your aaas if he doesn't like it. 6 whips on bare bottom should have shown something. I would have beat the living hel out of that witch as soon as i heard what she did.

Answer 7

you can try charges but because there are  no marks , all you can do is make sure she never ever gets near your daughter again.

Answer 8

first off i have to give you props on the way you handled the situation i would of whooped that womans ***!!! but i wouldnt take her back there. she should of never landed a hand on her that is so wrong. i wouldnt wait for her to want to see your daughter again to tell her how i felt i would go to her house and ask her why she did it and tell her she wont be seeing any of her grandchildern that are from you and your husband! but i am so sorry that happened to you! just try to talk and ask why!!!

GOOD LUCK SWEETY!

Answer 9

First, do not ever leave her with them again. Second, REPORT it! Even if nothing comes of it it should be recorded that it happened and that you did something about it. God forbid 2,3,5 years from now maybe you think it's safe and leave her again and something like this only maybe worse happens at least you have the first time reported also to back you up. AND I would go at these people full blast and let them know that they will never be around your daughter again. That said, not to be mean but what were you thinking?

Answer 10

Go home, and never let them see her again.  Explain to your daughter that Grandma was very mean and she should not have done that, and that she will never have to go there again.  Your daugher will get over it, and your MIL will pay for the rest of her life by not having the privelege of seeing your daughter.

Answer 11

There are no marks - so no proof.  The cops won't do anything.

I would've beat the c**p out of her, but what done is done.  Now you have a reason to never ever ever let your witch MIL watch your kid.  I hope your husband feels the same as you and agrees.

Answer 12

You probably don't like my answer but you never told her that you don't want her spanking your child. They just disciplined her as they saw fit.  

Answer 13

maybe another side of the story.

she raised your son.  the kid was begging for attention.  there are no marks.  you should have gotten a babysitter if you thought she was so "vile" rather than use the free sitting service knowing they love their tv news.

i'm not justifying the spanking and i sometimes think this society is too feely good and we are raising really selfish ppl, but your story seems one sided.  maybe you and your hubbie need counseling.  your kid may be too spoiled or you are in the process of raising a rotten kid.

Answer 14

i would just let it be. the cops would not do anything spanking is not a crime. and with no marks there really isnt anything you can do. i would for sure not take your kids there again. i would chalk it up at a lesson learned, and if you see them again let her know you will NEVER leave her alone again with them. just keep telling yourself you are a good mom and this will pass. have a great day  

Answer 15

It's very simple.

You NEVER, EVER leave your child alone with your mother-in-law.

End of discussion.

Answer 16

Don't take her back there. When they ask why, tell them! But make sure your daughter is out of the house when you do it. I envy your patience for logging onto Y!A and asking for advice before doing anything. I personally would have flipped!