Please Help I dont Know what to do!!!!!!!!!!?

Question

Just so you all know i call my mother in law, mom that is who i was reffering to in a previous question but so you all know i plan on telling my parents that they are going to be grandparents but there is two problems. You see when i graduated High School my parents expected me to leave my hubby ( bf then ) and i didnt and they told me to move out and not to talk to them as long as im still with him. What should i do tell them and hope they are happy or not mention it to them? ( I havent seen or spoken to them in two years and just so you know my hubby didnt do anything to them they just hate him. I dont want my parents to feel as though they have to love the baby and im nervous about telling them.)

Answer 1

Just tell them out of respect. They are your parents after all. All parents love their children regardless of what they've done, though not the act. And leave it to them to struggle with their own emotions and decisions. You can't be doing that for them.

At the end of the day, I guess if they know you are happy with your decision they will share your joy too.

This is how I feel about your situation. All the best on your pregnancy.

Answer 2

You know what? Send them flowers that say Congrats you are a grandma & grandpa. Give them time to soak it in and let them come to you. Thats what I would do in this situation. Its a nice gesture from you and then your not there for reaction. Gives them time.  

Answer 3

they hate him for no reason. i am sure it is because they felt you can "do better" but its been two years now and your considered an adult. you must handle this in an adult manner. not high school ok? it really seems you need them right now. why not just tell them this? your mother will understand. tell her you want a relationship with her because you need her at this point in your life and that she doesnt always have to agree with you on how you chose to live your life but can she please just be there for you while youlive it? i know I have a hard time talking to my parents....... if i were in your shoes I would write them a letter. and tell them you made your choice.can they please except it and just be there for you. and ask them to set a rule they dont talk about your husband with you. just be there for you. tell them the news.......and then tell them you need them in your life now. and ask them if they can at least try.... good luck

Answer 4

If you want to work on your relationship with your parents then I would tell them, but if you have no desire to work things out then I wouldn't even tell them. Me and my husband are high school sweethearts as well and people thought we wouldn't last past graduation, so I can relate to you. Well, good luck with your pregnancy and congratulations!