Please Help I got friend problems.?

Question

I had this friend that I thought really highly of. I care for him like a brother. I always tried to help him in any way I can. I gave him about 1,000 dallars to help pay off his bills because is fieance cheated on him. My best friend told me one day that he wanted to date my sister. After that he told me if I had a problem with it tell him and he will back off. I didn't think I had a problem with it until I started seeing him flirt with here. I felt weird and couldn't talk to him the same. I told my sister about my problem and she said she probably wasn't going to date him anyway. The next day my friend came over and started hitting on my sister. I felt very uncomfortable so I told him about my feelings about him dating my sister. He asked why and I told him how I feel weird and uncomfortable with it and because I know about his s*x life I know about all of the gross girls he has slept with. I then told him how I did not want a triangle to be created between me him and my sister. I also explaind we wouldent be the same way because I don't want to say things and have it going out to my sister and family. He got really mad and sped off. He then continued to text my sister and bad mouth me. Later he called me and said F*ck you I am going after her anyway. Then started to call me childish and name call me. I then started to ask him why is he willing to sacrifice a great friendship over a crush. (He has a crush he is not in love) He is now continuing to text my sister and call me a f*cker and other bad names. My sister is still being his friend. What should I do? I feel betrayed by a friend that I thought really highly of.

Answer 1

Wow... that must be really hard on you.. Im feel really bad for you..

I mean, something like that has happened with me.. but not nearly as personal.. with your sister and all.

What i would do in that situation is to just really try to explain to your sister how you feel about it all. im sure you have, but i encourage you to keep at it.. so maybe she will feel what your feeling and see how big of a deal it is to you.

And about the friend, i have no clue what to say about that.. He seems like he has turned into a real jurk.. im sorry. I really have no clue what to do with him...

I guess you could try to talk it out with him.. and if that doesnt work then I guess the only thing you can do is just forget about him =\   sorry

Good luck to you.. ill be prayin for you.

Edit: I agree with what kayla marie said (^^  2 above my post)

Answer 2

Do the mature thing. And leave it alone. Eventually he will come to his senses and back off. And If he doesn't, just ignore and him and talk to him if you have to. No sense trying to talk him into saying sorry and having a talk with him if he's not willing to listen and is actually being the childish one. I hope it works out. As for your sister, it's her life. Just let her be friends with him. But unless it's really bothering you, then tell her you want her to end any ties/connections/relationships with him because he's just causing problems for you and will probably cause something with her.  

Answer 3

Have you tried talking to your sister. Having a real heart to heart with her. If you can get her to listen to you, maybe things can turn around. You need to get her to understand that you'd NEVER all anyone to speak that way about her and you don't understand why she's still talking to him when he says terrible things about you. Tell her that family is way more important and that you know this guy and his track record with girls and that you are just wanting to protect her because you love her. She may listen to you, if you speak right from your heart. I'd give it a shot.

Answer 4

I made a new account.. so i reposted my answer on there.. its the bottom one.

Answer 5

if he was going to go through all that trouble just to date your sister , he's not worth the trouble .

friends come and go , but family is here til the end .

Answer 6

Ok first of all he is not your friend if he can't respect how you feel about him dating your sister! And second of all if he brought it to u and asked you then he needs to quit being a jerk and respect that! And another thing if he is bad mouthing you to ur sister then u need to talk to her and let her know what type of game he is on! Then if u do get another chance to talk to him you should have a man to man talk, and let him know that "you know, hey I can't stop you from dating my sister, I can only let you know how I feel and hope that u respect that, and if u can't don't talk to me about your relationship with her, and I would like it if u keep the two of your relationships private so I can't see"! And if he's a man then he'll respect that, but if not, tell him to fly away on a kite! Good luck!

Answer 7

if hes telling you all that stuff then hes not a very good friend get rid of him