Please Help My Daughter's being bullied?

Question

Today Was the first day of high school for my daughter. and she was bullied and harassed severely. We are an Arabian family and living in The United states but she claimed several girls pushed her and said her family must be terrorists and used stereotyping to make her feel awful they also said she should go back to Saudi Arabia. How do i take action? would a sit down conference with her teachers be best? also how do i make my daughter feel better

Answer 1

dont embarrass her thats the worst thing you can do!

dont even go into the school, if her class mates see you they will be even more brutal

you would think by high school the bullying and meanness to others would have stopped, but it hasn't.

your daughter needs to find friends who  support her, and be mean back to the girls! its the only way to get rid of them is to be better then them. if i were her i would have beat the living sh*t out of the people who said that.

maybe you should tell her that you wouldn't be upset if she did do so...

Answer 2

Most definitely speak to the principal, the girls parents, and if they touch her again you can file a police report against them for assault.

Answer 3

I feel so sorry for your daughter and that she doesn't feel welcome. Don't forget to reassure her that the actions of these girls should not be an accurate depiction about what the entire population views on her ethic background.

Your daughter and you should try your best to get the names of these girls. You should notify the administration office immediately. If it happens again by the same girls, there are multiple routes the school could take:

1) They will call the other girls into custody at the administration office, where they are then interviewed and warned.

2) They could call a parent/school board conference in which you, your daughter, the bullies, and THEIR parents, all conjoin in one room. It's not only a form of embarrassment for the girls that are harassing your daughter, but the school board officials will also make it clear that these girls are to leave your daughter alone or suffer consequences, such as suspension, or possibility of being expelled from the school entirely.

If the situations get really horrible for your daughter, you can choose to file individual restraining orders against these girls, which I highly recommend. Harassing someone by race, especially implying that they are guilty of treason based on ethnic heritage, is extremely serious and harmful, and should be given appropriate punishment, even if involving law enforcement seems a bit too much for the situation. Remember, these girls physically touched your daughter, and that is grounds for having law enforcement involved. Having a restraining order will stop all contact between those two people, and severely limit the pathways of the other girls, to the point where they might have to switch classes or switch schools.

Your daughter deserves the best. I'm ashamed that there are people in this country that have the notion to say such things about other groups of people. This kind of behavior is why other countries have missiles pointed directly at the Unites States.

Answer 4

That's what happens when the kids nowadays (the bullies) are being raised by jerks who are racist and who don't teach their children to be decent to other people.  It's really disgusting.

I am really sorry for the trouble you are having.  I don't really have any answers for you, but I see that there are a lot of good ones on here already.  I hope things get better for you very soon.

Answer 5

Well In my opinion....just based on what you've stated, I would have her stand up for herself in a non-antagonizing way...if that makes any sense :)

The bullies need to understand that she is not going to be meek, but at the same time, if the bullies realize that this REALLY bothers her that might encourage the behavior even more.

If that doesn't work , then you might want to involve the school administration.

Good Luck...

Answer 6

sit down with her counselors and principals and talk to them about it.

school doesnt start for me till friday thankfully.

Answer 7

i am of the same nationality, i suggest entering her in a martial art if matters persue like for example karate.and of course speak to your school principal or councellor, they can help alot.

Answer 8

Well tell your daughter NOT TO BE BULLIED she MUST stand up for herself, yeah yeah you call the school blah blah blah, same thing is gonna happen-do you have a large family? Older brother's/sisters. I am not saying that she needs to go head to head-but she needs to let this little girls or boys no this is not cool-it okay to stand up-kill them dummies with a good sentence-2 verbs, and a few pronouns will take u far- I feel that she needs to get a back bone to stand up to these girls-she gets in a fight GOOD tell her to fight back-that will let them KNOW she is not going to be bullied-good luck & keep us posted

Answer 9

Contact her teachers. The students can be expelled for such hate speech. Just reassure your daughter that she should be proud of where she comes from and to keep her head up. I'm sure she'll be fine. Take action though, if these girls aren't stopped they'll continue and it'll damage your daughter.

Answer 10

I'm so sorry this happened. I think the best thing to do for her is to let her know that she is a wonderful person no matter her nationality and that you will be there for her...let her know that there are very close minded people out there and that she shouldn't give a flying fig about what they think. I would definitely go in and talk with the principal of her school.  

Answer 11

I am so sorry to hear this. Unfortunately kids are cruel. I might suggest contacting a school counselor who can sit with your daughter and discuss what is going on.that might help her wellbeing a bit. see if the counselor can figure out who to contact about disaplining the other students.

Answer 12

Hello there,

First of all I would like to say I am extremely sorry about the trouble that is being caused for your daughter. Kids can be really mean. Having gone to a school where I was part of a minority, I know how it feels. But there are some ways to approach the problem. I think you should tell your daughter what a wonderful person she is and remind her of her talents to give her a self-esteem boost. Tell her that she should be proud of her cultural heritage and advise her that if she just toughs it out and ignores those brats, they'll eventually lose interest.  

What these kids are doing is completely wrong and it's a breach of human rights. Feel free to talk to the school authorities, the principal or the school counselor. Tell them everything. You said some physical bullying was involved. If it gets serious, you may have to involve the police and/or a lawyer who deals with discrimination. Ignore the stereotype. Sometimes we Americans just assume stuff about different nationalities. Having lived in the middle east for so long, I know some great, friendly people from the region.  

Good luck and all the best for you and your daughter ... ;)