Please Help! Scared child being abused ?

Question

My mom has become unbearable since my dad died. When i do something like leave bread crumbs on the counter she tells me ' your dad who was dying was worth more than you' and makes unnecessary comments like that. Among other thing, there is the classic 'you're stupid, idiot, a***e, lazy'..I understand I'm not perfect, but i am not any of those! Technically I'm 16, so not exactly a child, but i still should have a right to feel safe in my own home. I am suffering from bulimia/anorexia possibly as a result, though my mother doesn't know. I just feel like i shouldn't say anything about the abuse because what about all those kids who have it worse than me...and what happens if i do report it? Can anyone offer informed advice or personal?experiences?

Answer 1

You need to talk to someone and soon. Maybe a counselor, teacher, Aunt, Uncle someone you feel close to. You may be 16 but you still need to be protected. Sometimes with mourning there is anger. Since the person they are angry at is dead they take it out on the ones left behind. Sounds like your mom is trying to deal with her loss and anger in that way. Please get help- anorexia/bulimia is not something you need to be dealing with alone. You can ruin your health(heart, kidneys, GI tract) if you are not careful. If you report it to the child protective services be prepared to face an even angrier mom. They are suppose to take a report- you will be removed from the home- and a case will be opened up. If there is no immediate danger to your life they may place you back in the home with your mom or not.

Talk to someone you trust and then have them talk to her with  you- not alone. She is lost in her grief and may not know what she is really doing- destroying her most precious gift- you

Answer 2

I think you should talk to one of your school counselors.  They should know of any relevant resources in the community and be able to get you help for your eating disorder.

On the subject of church, they may have resources to provide some help or at least direct you to someone that can.  I don't think it will matter that you're not a member.  So, it's really not as irrelevant as it seemed.

Answer 3

you could also talk to your school counselor.  

i think it might be good to have someone talk to her alone, then mediate a discussion between the two of you.

at the very worst.... you can go to college in two years.  study hard and get some scholarships to pay for it girl!

i hope this works out for you.  my parents used to say stuff like that to me when i was younger, i still dont feel that i can be successful with my life because i feel like im too stupid, so i probably shouldnt even try.  i hope you dont ever feel that way.

Answer 4

YOU NEED TO COMFRONT HER, U ARE IN PAIN AND SHE NOT ,MAKING IT BETTER THAT'S NOT RIGHT. TALK TO A BEST FRIEND BUT IF I WAS YOU I WOULD TALK TO A SCHOOL COUNSLOR THEY HELP ALOT

Answer 5

I believe your mom is still going through a grieving process, she is not seeing what she is doing to you, I suggest you sit down, write her a letter and tell her all your feelings and how this is affecting your health, let her know how much you miss your dad too and that this hasn't been easy for you as well, and let her know that you miss her, this will help bring her back to reality. make sure you don't say anything judgmental about her this will only make her feel worse, just let her know you are there for her, and that you need her too.  

Answer 6

im soo sry about this):

you should try talking to a friend, teacher or anyone you feel close to about this..r you could TRY to talk to your mom, but if you dont feel comfortable doing that, dont. also, try praying. God really does listen to us. it may be tough now, but in the end everything will be okay.

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Answer 7

Because of the contents of the situation, I can not issue too much advise or help to you, without an appointent or pay. However, according to my handbook and contract, I am legally allowed to refer you to a person who is capable and diagnose this issue on a scale.

Referal: If you are Christian, and are in a church, seek advice and help from your church officials/counselors and leaders. If you are Christian and are not in a church I HIGHLY suggest that you involve yourself (1st priority) with one. If you are not Christian and/or have no religion, I suggest you become involved with whatever religion you are and seek advice through it or get involved with a teenage counseling group.

I diagnose your issue on a scale of 10 out of 10, due to the content.

Good luck!

Answer 8

call the police or emergency room please don't leave this alone its best to get help b4 its too late . i know someone that has got abused and she got a protection order so that the Dad couldn't hurt them and if you get a protection order they are not allowed near you again and have no contact with you what so ever . if they do come near you hurt you etc you can call the police. the police website gives you info about domestic volience and how to get a protection order . good luck hope this helps.  

Answer 9

You have make me so sad to know you are getting so much mental abuse from your mom. My mom was something similar but not that bad, my relationship ended when I turned 21 years old but it is now in re-building.

I recommend you go to your church and get in the clubs for kids your age. Also, get closer with your aunt, I hope you have one.

The abuse will end when you leave the house, in the meantime look for adult support somewhere else.  

Answer 10

That's awful! You shouldn't be going through that. I've been going through abuse from my mother too and you need to do exactly what I did: get help. If you have any relatives you feel comfortable talking to, tell them. If not, tell one of your teachers or your school principal or counselor; they know how to deal with situations like this. If you ever are unsure, you can call one of the following child abuse hotlines; they are free and won't show up on your phone bill.

ChildHelp - National child abuse hotline in Canada and the USA (1 800 4 A CHILD - 1 800 422 4453)

Kids Help Phone - Child helpline in Canada (1 800 668 6868)

Childine - Child helpline in the UK and Ireland (0800 1111)

Kids Help Line - Child helpline in Australia (1 800 551 800)

Also, if you want to talk you can email me off my profile and I'll talk to you.