Please Help me, PROBLEM WITH EX?????

Question

My EX. Won't leave me alone.....It is part my fault, we are really good friends, but there are some things I can't accept And we have have been separated for two years and we where friends and he tried to help me out but it has become more than that, we are great friends but he is starting to want more, What can I do To keep it amicable If I knock him back he'll be nasty? how can I explain it to him I love him, but am not in love with him......he just doesn't understand He can be quite violent which is why I left to start with?

Answer 1

if you say he is quite violet, am assuming he has hit you before, why did you become friends with him again in the first place.the first time you guys seperated should have been it.you need to tell this guy to leave you alone if that doesnt work  GET A RESTRAINING ORDER ON THE DUDE!!!

Answer 2

that aint just violent that is fetal attraction! crazy and pycho for real! you have a real problem!

Answer 3

AMICABLE happens years and years down the road...and the only way to be thru with the drama is realie you had a good friend when you were married...now to him..your trying to remain good friends sends his warped mind a mixed message that you want him back..the only way he will get it is if you cut all ties and let time happen for awhile then somehow AMICABLE resurfaces once the dust clears. Good luck  

Answer 4

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Answer 5

Cut the strings my dear, if he gets nasty, call the police. You have no future with this guy.

Answer 6

My ex was the same way.  For him it generally turns into an all or nothing situation.  There is no middle ground in which we can be good friends without him expecting it to go further.  You really can't do anything other than set down hard boundaries.  Remain friendly, but don't rely on him to help you out with anything.  It will only lead him to think that, at least in some way, you need him or owe him something.  Remain friendly, but leave it at that.  I have no choice but to interact with my ex because we have children.  If there were no children, I would refrain from all interaction.  It's been my experience that it's impossible to maintain much beyond a business-like relationship with him.  If you tell him that you love him but aren't in love with him, all he will hear is that you love him and it will encourage him to continue pursuing you.  So, if you have kids you need to break off all conversation but what involves the kids.  If you don't, you should stop all communication other than what is absolutely necessary.  As long as you remain close with him, rely on him and/or share intimate details of your life, he will still believe that there is a chance.