Please Help me if yo're from the UK?

Question

Hi, am 23, I have dyslexya, so am sorry for the bad spelling, please read on and answer my question I really need help

I had a bad life with an abusive mother, she sold my virginity, she is horrible to me, and I have been working and saved money to move out, but she said she needed an op or she will lose her sight, so I gave her the money, and now she is moving with her husband to a flat and I will be homeless in a week, I live in London, I am not working as I have been raped and had a car accidant in the last year, and I dont have anyone to stay with in the mean time, I am currently going through therapy, but now I feel like killing myself I have nowhere to go, I tried the councel, but they said because am not pregnant or have any kids and are under 25 they cant do anything to me

please tell me what should I do?

Answer 1

Hmm... you're 23, have had a horrible life, and live in London... I'd say get out!  Pack a bag, get to a good hitchhiking spot and just keep going until you find somewhere new that you like the look of.

I did a similar thing once (but for different reasons) and now live on the opposite side of the planet to where I started.  It's a "fresh start" and you can put all the pain and hurt behind you (it will probably be with you to some degree forever, but at least with a fresh start you'll never be forced to remember it by all of the trivial little things.

You've got a very good advantage living in the UK - France is just a short trip away, and that's a COMPLETELY new life.  Perhaps make your way over to the French Riveria where's there's lots of tourists, get yourself a job in a cafe that is primarily visited by tourists (so you can speak English in your job), then just take it from there.

It's a "scary" thing to do, but you've been through MUCH harder times already, so be strong, be independent, and "just do it!"

Answer 2

If she's moving away, you'll get to keep the house. It happened to a boy in my street. His Dad's in jail (he never knew him) and his mum died of a brain tumour. So, he gets to keep the house, with help from the council to pay the bills. The mortgage (if you have one) should get cleared. You'll have to get yourself a job though to pay the bills, but like I said the council will help you with it.

I think you should speak to your therapist about it, tell them how you feel because that's what he/she is there for; to help you.

Try to find a website for 'rape victims' I'm sure there are many. You can email them and I bet they'll have lots of advice for you. They'll probably be able to help you or will know people who can.

Good luck.

Answer 3

Shelter

Salvation Army

Child Line

Women's refuge

Your current therapist can put you in touch with social services

Under no circumstances should any one offer you accommodation on line, nor should you accept an offer.

Answer 4

whow, sorry to hear that.

but yeah listen to that guy with the first post.

Do you have any other family member? like a cousin to saty with or a friend?

Answer 5

Sorry to hear how bad things have been for you so far in your life and I do hope your future will get better. Your obviously a decent human being as you have handed over money to someone that has abused you. I know she's your mother but I don't think I would have been able to have given her my cash. The only thing I could think of in such circumstances would be to ask a friend and a family if they could take you in (for a rent) until you can get yourself in to a position were you could possibly rent your own place or possibly share with others to reduce the cost and make it more affordable.

Perhaps another question for you to ask on the site

Anyone looking to share renting a flat in London area, keep it to same s*x for safety sake.

The best of luck to you !

Answer 6

That's terrible =(

d**n coucil >=( They should be able to do something about it. You desperately need somewhere to stay =| If i lived in london i'd give you somewhere to live but i don't so =\

there must be a place somewhere there you can stay for not much?

You need to get a job as soon as possible and if you can locate family members or friends and talk to them.

Hope youl be okayx

Answer 7

there must be some kind of shelter or hostel youcan go to till you can get yourself sorted.....ask your therapist for adice on places that take in people in your situation....or call the samartitans not only for someone to chat to but they must have all the information on places you can go to......you'll find your be much better off without your mother

Answer 8

Women's refuge would be a start....

Here's a link for womens help in London. http://www.womeninlondon.org.uk/

Good Luck