Please! I Need Some Advice...?

Question

Alright, I've resently come to terms with my homosexuality, choosing to keep it to myself for know however. I need a little advice though.

It all started when I was younger in Middle School, I'm eighteen at the moment by the way. Basically I was picked on by the way I talked, and how I acted. Apparently due to my demeanor everyone that didn't know me that well thought I was g*y. Looking back now, I could understand why. I talked basically like Jack from Will and Grace, and to an extent acted the same as well. I didn't do it on purpose, it was just....me? Eventually everyone got to me, and over the course of graduating to High School I changed DRASTICALLY. I changed my appearence, how I talked, acted, etc: It was so drastic as a matter of fact, that my friends who I've known my entire life didn't even recognize me. I also became reserved. I repressed any idea of being g*y because It wasn't a possibility. I tried dating girls on different occasions, mainly because I thought it was the thing to do. But during these occasions I had no interest in them what-so-ever. Instead of becoming closer as a couple, it seemed that we were just becoming really really good friends. There was no intimacy at all, basically because I didn't feel comfortable with it. The dating thing went on again about, oh, three months ago? But it was just the same scenario. This girl was crazy about me, and still is now believe it or not. But during our time together she just gave up on me. She thought that my lack of intimacy was an oppurtunity for me to grow and become comfortable on my own, but when I didn't she put two and two together I suppose.

Apparently women are the most clever beings on the planet, because she told me the other day that she worried that I was g*y even BEFORE we went out. XD I found that to be rather........shocking.

Was repressing my feelings the wrong thing to do? I mean, I'd find myself looking at guys, still do XD, having these weird thoughts that were completely against anything I was taught. But I didn't see the problem with it. I still don't.

But anyway, I want to tell my close friends but can't think of a way to do it. I know they won't belive me, mainly because I don't seem like the kind of guy who'd BE g*y. But there are more then just the stereotpical Drama Queen g**s, ya know? I'm afraid they won't take me seriously because they have associated me with being "straight" for so long. What do I do?

Also, I live in a pretty low beat, one horse town if you would? I have no idea where to meet a nice guy. I mean, I know some other guys from school but their, oh.........what's the word. Bitchy? I mean that it no disrespect, but it's true. What do I do there? Am I going to have to wait until I can get out on my own? Or do I just go looking? :D

Answer 1

google our true colors  

Answer 2

if youre g*y come out of the closet. its pretty bright on that side. i mean youll never be happy if you stay in. keep your eyes open and maybe college with open more doors. actually i live in a smallish town too and our g**s are treated like princesses. well the pretty ones. i mean theyre so popular every wehre like all these girls i now drool over g*y guys. but the point is, g**s are okay people actually they are so cool and kind.  so i mean dont worry about what people say or feel do your thing man

Answer 3

Go to a bigger city

:)

and yes you shouldnt have repressed yourself soo much..



but its ok just be yourself from now on  :)

Answer 4

It's amazing what repression can do to the mind; it's rather scary.

Answer 5

Well yeah, ideally you probably should've never hid who you are.  BUT this can work to society's advantage.  Where they've associated you with straight behavior, you telling them you're g*y would force them to reconsider their views on g*y people.  It'll show them that - wow!  maybe g*y people aren't so different from straight people.  It gives you an opportunity to bring real change to a (pardon) hick-town.

You should definately tell them who you are, and when I did - in my little hick-town, I got set up with every hot guy who could be talked into it by anyone at the school (you'll find you're not as alone as you think you are when people you'd never imagine start coming out to you - they don't want to go to the 'queens' 'cause they're too obvious, but you are more like them).  It wont be near as bad as you think.

Good luck!  Hope this helps!

Answer 6

I’m on the other field sorry I have tried to date guys. I'm bi and lots of people know that I am but there are people that say I don’t look like I'm les and when I tell them I'm just bi they tell me to go les. but that wont change the way i feel.

you will meet the right one i promise you just dont give up looking  

also it doesn’t matter what you look like but it’s how you feel on the inside.

^-^ I hope this helped *kiss kiss*