Please I need serious help now, 4 week old?

Question

I am crying as I type this. My child cries to the point I cant stand it and I want to throw him (but I dont) I dont know what to do. I just fed him and laid him down but of course he is bawling. Please help me someone. He cried for no reason at all yesterday of and on almost all day. I dont know what to do. Is it OK that he is 4 weeks old today and I lay him in his crib to cry it out? I just fed him and he isnt dirty. I feel like such a horrible mother :(

Answer 1

Don't feel like a horrible mother.

Babies cry. A LOT. CONSTANTLY. sometimes for no reason.

try to distract him.. play with toys with noise. Make funny faces. try ANYTHING/EVERYTHING to distract him.

Good luck! I feel your pain girl:)

Answer 2

My son also cried, cried and cried. This went on for at least a month.  We tried gas drops which never helped.  Make a long story short he had a reaction to his formula (similac Advanced).  The doctor switched him to the Similac with soy and he was a different baby for all of two weeks.  He ended up having an allergic reaction to the soy.  Next we tried Nutramigen by Enfamil and he has been fine ever since(three months).  Some babies can't break down the protein in formulas, which is what could be your child's problem.  Good luck!

Answer 3

Sometimes they do just need to cry it out!  Mom needs her sanity as well!  If baby is going to cry in moms arms the same as the crib, might as well be in the crib.  I'm sorry you have a colicky baby, that is really tough!  Try buying some gripe water or an herbal supplement called Kid-e-Col.  To help calm your baby and restore your sanity!  Maybe call a friend and have them come over just to talk and help you through this hard time!  Good Luck!

Answer 4

Buy Mylicon drops for gas. You can also lay him on the bed and "peddle" his legs. It will help with the gas. Call the dr. and ask what else you can do. He may also be teething. By Baby Oragel and put a tiny bit on his gums on top and bottom(just front teeth). Good luck!

Answer 5

first of all ignore this answer from the user

(you need to talk to your Dr about wanting to harm your baby. Babies dont cry 'for no reason' hes crying to be held. He was just inside you for 9 months and now you are expecting him to want to be alone? call a friend or family member to come over and take care of him and get yourself some help. before you do something you will regret)

There is nothing wrong with you. You are a good mother. You and only you know what's best for your baby. my daughter went through a fussy period every night for about 3 -4 hours around the same time. Just hold him and rock him. The only good comment from the user who made the statement above is that he only wants to be close to you. and believe it or not if you swaddle him it will work just don't give up if it doesn't seem to work at first. My daughter is 4 months all and she's my only child you can email me at [e-mail] if you need to talk or need any more advice. and remember you know what's best for your baby and you have what it takes to take care of him just be patient.

Answer 6

you are not a horrible mother.  Crying like that can be a sign to a serious medical condition.  Take him to the doctor, and please dont throw him.  Babys can give you headachs, heart achs, and much more but you have to love him.  Take him to the doctor!!!!!!!!!!!

Answer 7

There are a couple of things you could try. My son did the same thing.

First: His belly may be bothering him. Try giving him some Mylicon drops or even just an ounce of water.

Second. Lay him on his belly on your chest. If it is his belly that is bothering him then the pressure will help to soothe him. However, he needs to be close to you.

Third: Try burping him. Even though he may not have just eaten he may have a bubble stuck.

Good luck!!!  

Answer 8

First of all... you are not a horrible mother.. I felt exactly the same way! Chances are that he is over tired and he doesn't know how to sleep... and I didn't know how to get him to sleep. Try rocking him until he is calm and then put him down in the crib. Mine also liked to go outside or listen to music!! Stay strong girly you can do it! Raising a little baby is tough, but it sound slike you are a wonderful mother! It will get better... I promise!

Answer 9

It is normal, and its probably Colic.

My brother would cry and cry and cry and cry until he wore him self out.

What we did was get a swing that rocks and vibrates.. and get a hair dryer.. put the hair drying on low.. and set it underneath the swing and let him rock..

For some odd reason it works..

Also at walmart or a pharmacy they have drops that are called Kolic.

It sometimes works but its worth a shot!

Good luck, any other questions feel free to email me.

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Answer 10

your not a horriable mother-- My mom actually did throw my brother and hit us several times. Yea, at this age. And when I was older she actually broke a tooth by hitting me in teh face liek that. Your having depression. It's really important that you tell your doctor this. There is help, I promise. You just have to go get it. Your not the only one. It is very frequent. If you DON'T feel you have control, leave him in his crib. It's better to do this than anything you may not have control over. What you can also do, is get ear plugs, right now. Don't so anything you'll regret. You can hurt him and YOURSELF in the long run. GEt to the doctor. I'm sorry.

Answer 11

Most babies go through that phase. If you have feed him, burped him, cleaned him, and he is not pulling on is ear, or has a fever, than it seems perfectly normal. He should grow out of it after awhile. Also I have left babies to cry alone alot of times(checking on them every so often), when I know that there is nothing wrong with them. Like I say it is just a phase, they go through.

Answer 12

He's only 4 weeks. You do not let him CIO. It's a horrible method and is only recommended when your child is over 6 months of age IF you were going to use it. He cries because he wants to be held, comforted, and loved. Babies are not "things" you just feed and leave alone. They need the security of knowing you are there, especially at such a young age. Pick your baby up and hold him.

Try swaddling him, putting on some soft music, and just rocking with him.

I also suggest speaking to your doctor about your wanting to throw him. You may have some sort of degree of post-partum depression and he/she can help you out with that. For now, do you have anyone that can take your baby for an hour or two so you can take a nap or regroup?

Answer 13

he may be colicky.... his stomach may be hurting him badly. Does he pull his knees up towards his chest when he is crying? You may want to talk to your doctor about this. Crying for long periods of time is very common at this age.. its ahrd to take, but it will get better. Have you tried swaddling him tightly with a  receiving blanket? Often babies calm down when they are tightly wrapped, including arms and legs..

Answer 14

Calm down! Your baby probably has gas or colic (which can come from gas). If he is fed and dry, but swaddle him and put some extra blankets in the car seat so that he's upright and lay him down. It's okay to put him down in another room if you want. For the gas, get Mylicon Gas Drops from the store and put it in his bottle if you are bottle feeding, that will ease the gas bubbles that are trapped in there. I understand, and it IS nerve wracking to have to hear a baby screaming. No one ever said being a mother is easy because it's not at all. Try the gas drops for sure and as long as you feel he is not sick or hurt, put him down in an upright position. I'm willing to bet it's trapped gas though. See if you can get a burp out of him. Take care!  

Answer 15

ALot of babys cry for no reason. I would rock him in a rocking chair or in his crib and sing to him to make him feel comforted. maybe he has to burp ? did you try burping him? well dont just leave him there, that is not good for him.

Answer 16

Do you have anyone who could come and give you a break for a few hours?  What your feeling is the way a lot of mothers feel.  Have you tried swaddling your son?  What about carrying him in a sling.  If you get too frustrated lay him down in a safe place and walk away for a minute.

Answer 17

It sounds like colic to me. My son was like that, there really isn't much you can do, the doctor may try switching his formula (if bottle-fed) other than that, the best you can do is swaddle him, rock him, and nothing else subsides (my childs doctor actually told me to do this) put him in a dark room with something like classical baby playing in the background in either a swing or his crib, if he takes a paci give that to him, and let him cry, their isn't much else you can do!

Answer 18

There may be no reason for his crying that you can see, but remember he can't communicate with you in words.  Maybe his stomach hurts, he has gas, or other ailment that you cannot see from the outside.  Have you tried gas drops or burping him again?  Is his nose runny or show anyother signs of a cold?

Answer 19

try to rock him or walk around if that dont work put him in him bed and let him cry plz dont do anything to him!!! his belly might hurt....i gave my kids sugar water and that helped

I HOPE THIS HELPS YOU ..IF U CANT STAND IT ANYMORE JUST GO TO A DIFF ROOM AND COME BACK EVERY 5 TO 10 MINS JUST TO MAKE SURE HE IS OK....

Answer 20

he might have colic, it's sort of common for some babies to get, it's like really bad gas i think for babies. i know sometimes swaddling them helps, and holding them close to you helps too. i know you cant hold him all day long, but do you have a swing? i kknow that worked for one of my brothers, try different soothing techniques, my sister loved the vacumn when she was a baby and lots of rocking my mom said she was colicy...um, maybe you should call the pediatrician to ask about it, Maybe if you're bottle feeding it's the formula. Cry it out really shouldnt be used for such small babies i dont think, if they are crying as i said they might not feel well like colic or it could be something else  

Answer 21

no i was like this when i was a baby too. he probably has really bad colic. hold him in your arms with his head near your heart so the beating will calm him down. make sure hes comfortable. try giving him a pacifier or something and blow on his face LIGHTLY to calm him. try singing to him. then call the pediatrician.  

Answer 22

Take a deep breath, you are not a bad momma. We've all been there, please try and relax. If not for you, for the babies sake. They pick up on your stress and frustration. A few suggestions...

If you have an exerball, bounce on it while holding baby

Pace around, singing softly

go for a drive, sometimes that soothes them

Play music, make silly faces

Check temp

Answer 23

Your body is going through a lot right now... your emotionally drained and physically beat... It's no wonder you feel this way!

Don't let him cry it out... there is a point though when you need to lay him down (clean and fed) and let him cry for your SANITY. But not too long. Count from 100-1...slowly...then go in and get him.

Do you have a car? Stroller? Take him for a walk...get some air. It could be colic...maybe not...my son had acid reflux and was like that. He will eventually grow out of this, but he needs his mommy.

Do you have a family member you can call? If so, call for suggestions. No new mom's brain is functioning at regular capacity at this point.

Good luck :)

Answer 24

It sounds like it could be colic, if you feel like you are at an end please find someone to come over and help you and let you get some rest until your mind is rational.  It is just something that babies get and go through and it will soon go away.

Answer 25

Is there someone else that can take him for a while so that you can have a break? You really need to get away when you start feeling like that.

He's probably colicky. Lot of babies get like that. My mother said that I had colic for 6 months, so I'm grateful that nobody threw me or hurt me in any way.

Try a pacifier, try massage to help move the gas bubbles. Are you breast feeding? If so, do you think you're making enough milk? If formula feeding, is it cow's milk based or soy? Sometimes soy based formulas cause less problems.

A warm bath and a nice massage with lotion can do wonders to calm baby down. Also running the vacuum cleaner will sometimes put them to sleep or take them for a ride in the car.

We had an automatic swing for my grandson which we all loved. He was a very fussy baby but the swing would usually put him to sleep pretty quick. I definitely advise you to buy a swing.  

Answer 26

Your not a horrible mother and what your child is doing is natural all babies do it . what you need to do is have a babysitter come over or someone take a day off go shopping hit the spa just take a day of getting away.i am not saying when you come back everything will be perfect and he will never cry again because he will you just need a break to get your mood  better and cheer you up  so when you come home from your get away your more open.

~good luck.

Answer 27

you need to talk to your Dr about wanting to harm your baby. Babies dont cry 'for no reason' hes crying to be held. He was just inside you for 9 months and now you are expecting him to want to be alone? call a friend or family member to come over and take care of him and get yourself some help. before you do something you will regret.  

Answer 28

First of all you are not a bad mother. The feelings you have having are normal. You feel helpless and probably exhausted. The baby probably does have colic, ask your doctor. But of course the best thing for you to do is to lay him in his crib and take a break from him. You will feel better when you come back to him. BUT just a small break do not leave him in the crib crying all day. 15 every hour is o.k. other than that yes feed him, change him and comfort him that is all you can do.

Answer 29

ok, first try to calm down.  Babies can sense stress in their mother and often times it can make it worse.

Do you still swaddle him?  Many babies love that tight feeling of the warm blankets.  My 2nd daughter was nearly 7 months old and still liked to be wrapped up tight!  Do you have a swing, try that.

How are his bowel movements?  Is he going regularly and are they soft?  If they are hard, or he's not going atleast once a day he may have an allergy to the formula.  I used soy b/c my daughter was so constipated she screamed all the time.

He may have gas, you can try mylacon drops, those help sometimes.  Try some of those options.  I also would vacuum, for some reason that will calm some babies.  I would also talk to his doctor, it could be as simple as changing his formula

Answer 30

Don't feel bad!  You're definitely NOT a horrible mother if you're making sure he's fed and changed all the time.  What I found worked best with my son was wrapping him up as tight as possible in a baby blanket and then swinging him in my arms from side to side.  Newborns like to be wrapped up tight because that's how they were while they were in the womb.  Also, I used to sing "Silent Night" while I was swinging him - worked like a charm almost every time! :)  Good luck!

Answer 31

Your baby probably has a tummy ache from gas.  It can be caused from their formula or from something in your breastmilk if you are nursing.  If you nurse, cut out "gassy" foods from your diet. It will help.   If your baby takes formula, he/she may need to be switched to a different formula.  Talk to your Dr. for suggestions on what formula is best for your baby.  Also, Mylicon Gas Drops for infants works wonders! My son practically lived on those up until the age of 6 months!