Please Read!! Is it ok to ask if I was Played??

Question

We went on one date, he wanted to have s*x, I said no. He acted like he liked me, but at the time I thought he was coming on pretty fast and I think I was borderline rude because I wasn't sure that I wanted anything to happen between us. So now its been a couple days. We've only texted a couple times. I want to know if he was just disappointed to not get an easy lay and that's why he's giving me so much space now or if he feels rejected and shy or embarrassed and thinks I don't like him. I do. I would like to know his thoughts. Would it be wrong to ask???

Answer 1

It might be a waste of time to ask.  A guy won't usually admit to such a thing.  Especially if his ego was hurt, or his game on you didn't work.

If he came on too strong and now he's giving the cold shoulder.  Then he either thinks you're not that into him or he knows he isn't going to get that easy lay.

Try asking him on another date if you still want to try things out with him, if he's not interested in the date or tries to reinact the last date then you have your answer that he only wants a lay.

If he gives you the space and doesn't try anything then he's waiting when you are ready and gets that you like him and just aren't ready yet.

Answer 2

This would be a great way to open up communication & possibly get to know each other better. Might be better on the phone to start. If he's truly interested in you I think he would make an attempt to talk about his feelings. If not, probably wise to move on, & chalk it up as a lesson well learned. You should feel good about yourself either way.

Good luck & Good Love

Answer 3

If it was just one date then chill.  The worst thing you can do for both yourself and the posibility of this relationship is to spend too much time worrying about it.  You did the right thing not sleeping with him.  So, be happy with that.

If you had a good time and he calls again, then go out with him again.

If he doesn't call again, it's not because he feels rejected.  It's either because he just wanted some, or because he's just not interested.

If he's not interested in you then you don't need to be interested in him.

It doesn't matter whether or not you've been played.  You didn't give in so who cares.  I don't mean that coldly I mean that if you were it is his problem not yours and don't let him think he got the best of you.

There are a lot of other guys out there.

If he does call back fairly soon, then tell you are glad he called.  If he waits forever or calls for a last minute date then you can still tell him your happy he called but make sure you have other plans and he'll  have to give you more notice next time.

He is not your boyfriend so don't get too excited about it either way.  But I would definitely not ask him about it.  Guys don't like to be pushed and if he is a player then he will say anything that will change the outcome next time.

Good luck to you.

Answer 4

you should ask

Answer 5

hes a guy, we just a lil fun and da giit our ***** wet.

Answer 6

don't sweat over him, he's a pig, he was just gunna use you like a bandaid, use for a little while and throw away and replace you.  you can find someone who wants something more serious.

Good Luck!

Answer 7

Sounds to me like he only wanted one thing and you said no so you are no longer important to him.  Don't ask him anything.  He is not worth it.  Hold out for a guy who wants to get to know all of you  and not just your body.

Answer 8

Don't ask him c**p. He is asking you to do something you dont want to do. Look if you dont want to do anything done. I am a guy and if a girl says no to me. I might ask again, if she says no again. Then I stop.

Point and case. If you dont want to DONT.

Answer 9

yeah because if he was into you before you said no and you's talked alot and texted alot and no he's being off with you, then yes he did want s*x and wasnt happy he didnt get it easy!

Answer 10

u made the right choice in not giving it up. if u did that he only call u when he wanted some again.

Answer 11

He doesn't feel rejected.  If he wants to talk to you he will... If he wants to go out with you...he will ask.   Men are not that difficult to figure out.   If he wants to try again in a better place he will...if not then you know exactly what he wanted.   His response to this situation will say everything about HIM ....men are action oriented.   When they want something...they go after it.   If he wants you, he knows where to find you.   Stay true to yourself and your value system...don't let anyone talk you into something that you are not ready for

Good Luck