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Please! Someone help me!!!! I am g*y but do NOT want to be!!! What can I do????

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I know it is perfectly normal to be g*y and all that jazz, and yes I do live in an open-minded society and people love and support me etc. etc.

But is it so wrong to not want to be g*y?

If anyone at all has any suggestions please share!

No a*****e-type jokes or sarcastic comments please, I realise this is an absurd request, but there is no harm in trying right?

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There are ex-g*y camps for people who want to "not be g*y"

None of which have been proven to work...well, that is unless you consider suicide as a success?

I think that a lot of LGBT people don't want to be, but eventually you have to just deal with it. You can deny it, or be asexual and not date anybody, but eventually your true feelings will show.
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Look, i'll give you EVERYTHING that i know  of

PSYCHOLOGY: states that there is nothing wrong with the mind that can cure homosexuality.  it is as natural as being lefthanded

THERAPY: is not meant to be used for treating homosexuality.  Homosexuality can not be cured.

PSYCHIATRY: has NO medicine to cure homosexuality.

I understand that you want to be straight, and I mean, so do I.  But there's nothing you can do about it.  Trust me.  If you are, then you are.
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well if you dont want to be there is no harm in that.

what you should do is have s*x with a woman and see how you feel
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You should always just be yourself. There is nothing wrong with being g*y, and the sooner u find that out the sooner everyone will see u in a new light.
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It's not that there's anything wrong with not wanting to be g*y, but it's a waste of your energy. It's like not wanting to be tall or Irish. You can want all night long, but you'll still be lanky and freckled in the morning. There really is harm in trying. If you spend all your time and energy trying to change what can't be changed, you'll only end up regretful and tired. Instead, try enjoying what you are. Make a deal with yourself to try and enjoy being g*y for like a year. I guarantee it'll have the exact same effect as spending a year trying to change yourself, and maybe you'll actually learn to be happy.
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About the only thing you can do is to just be celibate-and there's nothing wrong with that.

It would be very unfair for a woman if you tried to date, so that doesn't leave you with a lot of options.

However, I think as you get older and get used to it, you may one day celebrate your nature.
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You can control your actions, but not your desires.

Much like Pavlov's salivating exercise on the dogs (the father of "conditioning"), you can "train" yourself to do straight acts (expressing desire for the opposite s*x, all the way to consummation), but that won't change the fact that you still will feel sexually aroused and excited by the same s*x.

In my view, that is suffering for no apparent good reason. But to each his own. I will not cast judgement on your choices - you are an adult and you are equipped with the right and maturity to make them willingly. I only wish that if you decide on this path, you will also find happiness and contentment.

You might need to see a psychologist to help you with the "conditioning" aspect. I know of one here in Manila, she's VERY g*y friendly, and in fact, is some kind of local heroine to g*y people. While she does not agree to the notion that "g*y people should change their deviant ways" - she is a staunch supporter and believer in the normalcy of homosexuality - she does help people with their desire to control their behavior. (Some of her patients come to her to ask her to stop wanting s*x all the time, mostly straight people.)

Good luck!
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No, it's not wrong to not want to be g*y. I think you WANT to be g*y, but not have the negative associations with it right? Edit: (I WANT to steal a million dollars from a bank, but don't want to be arrested). Also, it'd be easier trying to change your surroundings and other aspects of yourself than trying to be straight.
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Sorry there's nothing you can do but accept it

you can either accept it and be happy

or deny it to yourself and live a miserable life which is a lie
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Hun you have to just accept who you are, realize that it's another part that makes your beautiful soul. You would spare yourself tremendous emotional suffering if you acknowledge who and what you are then to try to kill the part you do not like. Do not let society pressure you to think that being straight is the "right" way. There is no "right" way in life. You just need to live "your" way.
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Get a girlfreind kiss her alot and the more girl you see the more you like and less you ease down your gayness lol that sound's weird coming from me
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theres really nothing you can do lol. sorry
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you cant do anything.

you cant change the way your mind works
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yeah, I felt that way for a while. I thought that being g*y meant that I wouldn't be able to find anyone to date, and that people would feel bad for me.

Don't worry, you'll get over it when you meet someone awesome and see that being g*y can be a lot of fun
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One may not want to be left-handed, but has little choice in the matter.

Thousands have tried to change their deepest yearnings, and with nary any success.  You can choose not to use your sexuality, but you don't choose whom to fall in love with.

It's your choice whether to flow with the river and enjoy the ride, or to paddle upstream and waste your energy for years.  Why fight against how God made you?
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yes, its not wrong to not want to be g*y.

theres some kind of therapy to turn straight.

its called conversion therapy.

where to consult a therapist like that, i don't know.

just be 100% sure that its what you want.
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only u can no wat is right 4 u follo ur own decision
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embrace it....or just live your life with a girl knowing you do not love her, you love a guy..:/

http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index?...
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Deny the urges and live a normal life. You can beat it.
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no...no harm in tryin (except for your mental health) but i know from experience that you cant change who you are...unless you brainwash yourself some how...at least you live in an open minded society, so your not discriminated against like most of us But the bottom line is...you cant...sorry but sad fact...too bad we dont get to choose...ahh the irony!!!
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