Please analyse the intention of my annoyingly weird mom?

Question

I have recently become a journalism student. And whenever I told people this news, they immediately related my studies to being an anchorperson (anchorman/anchor lady or whatever that is) in the future. However, I never really plan on that. I just want to see how things go. And when we come to this, they instantly refer to the topic of "looks". I'm no pretty girl to EVERYONE, but quite a number of people do find me beautiful. But the thing is, recently i discover that, whenever I am asked by someone what I'm up to, my mom will immdiately tell them I'm now a journalism student and say "Well but you know...those anchor ladies are supposed to be pretty..."

Ok...so i dunno whether she's fishing for compliments "on my behalf" or just want to make me feel like sh*t. I never think im very beautiful, but at least acceptable, and i have been so insecure about my look throughout the years. Seriously, she made me feel embarassesd!! What was she thinking?????

Answer 1

I don't know what kind of relationship you have with your mother, but in my family, someone would just say to her "what's that supposed to mean?"

Answer 2

First of all you need to tell your mother that being a journalism major does not mean you are studying to become a anchorperson.  Once she understands that, she wont be making that assumption when she introrduces you to people.

Secondly, I think she is not trying to make you feel like sh*t.  I think her wording is coming out wrong, but she actually means that you are beautiful and that you would fit in well as an achorperson since you're pretty.

No mother wants to make their child feel like sh*t.  Believe me.  

Answer 3

I think your mom doesn't realize how she makes you feel when she's saying this. Just ask her why she feels like she always needs to remind everyone of how you look and even if you don't get a straight answer, you may be able to inadvertently let her know that you really don't appreciate it.

Answer 4

You are well centered.  Forget what others think.  If you like reporting, go for it, your career will take you where it leads.

The idea of ideal looks changes from year to year.  The idea of intelligence never varies.  Sounds like u have a little of both...enjoy.

Answer 5

Mothers definitely have that terrible trait of embarrassing their daughters.

Unintentionally l am sure.ln your mom's eyes no doubt are a pretty girl and this is her way of telling whoever......

Answer 6

She's your mom.  You could look like a toad and in your mother's eyes, you're the most beautiful thing ever.  It's a mom thing. It's what they do.  

I think your mom is just complementing you.  However, if it makes you self-conscious, just tell your mom that you're not really interested in becoming an anchorman/anchor person(??)...news anchor!!

I don't think she meant to embarrass you...so talk to her.  Tell her that you're embarrassed and she'll stop.

Answer 7

It sounds to me like she is undermining you.  Perhaps she thinks she is doing this to be kind and so that you won't be disappointed, but in actuality she is cutting you down, and being very mean.  Tell her (as nicely as possible, you don't have to be mean just because she is) that if she can't be supportive then to just not say anything at all.  If she denies undermining you, tell her specifics, and ask if she know wha a "back-handed compliment" is.

I'm sorry if this sounds so negative, but even those who love us can hurt us in the guise of being "helpful".

Answer 8

She doesn't know what she's talking about. Don't worry about it.

Answer 9

Ask her not to say that.  She probably doesn't realize how it's making you feel.  Talk to her.