Please answer, Why me?? was that because of my stupid behaviour?

Question

My father has a very good friend like a brother and I call him uncle. He is married living in his house with his childern and wife. He and his wife work and earn a good money. They live in a city far away from my city and I never met them before. I went to their city and lived in their house for 2 months as i did not have any accomodation to live in that city. They were very nice to me and they took a very good care of me especially my aunt(his wife), I felt her like my mother is taking care of me. I was attracted to her like a child is attracted to his mother, the reason was that I was away from my home and I was missing my real mother a lot. I did not tell her what I felt about her. Suddenly I realised that she was trying to make me feel sexually towards her, like whenever I was around she used to have her best dresses and tried to SHOW ME her sexual moves. and never calling me son that I wanted to hear from her for me. I became sick of it. On one hand I loved her like a child loves his mother and on the other hand I hated her second behaviour.

Once she was giving me food I touched her hand while taking food from her hand, suddenly she made a bad face like if I touched her hand just because I wanted to have s*x with her and like she did not like that. I did not say her anything but I made a very angry face just to make her realise that I was never interested in her sexually. She is 20 years elder than me.

my questions are:

Why was she trying to attract me sexually ?

Did she do this just to control me and by controlling me she wanted to control her husband?

Was I selfish that I needed her like a child needs his mother because I was missing my real mother?

Sometimes I feel guity that I was selfish I behaved her like a child wanted his mother and she never needed me as a son. Because of that she took my behaviour in a wrong way like I wanted to have s*x with her. Am I right?

I also want to add

after sometime my uncle send me to another house near his house and he said me not to tell my aunt that I was living in a house near hers. He might have felt that my aunt was trying to control him using me.

I just asked this question because these things hurt my feelings badly and I never want to treat anyother woman like my mother, if I am right.

Why this happened to me??????????????????????????

Answer 1

It is not always purposeful.

People start flirting without realizing and out of control, and then they may try to stop it.

She may feel attracted to you but doesn't want it, so she could have made angry face.

So, don't worry and dont think too much, things happen and human behavior is sometimes driven by instinctss, and then the mind intervenes and stops this.  

Answer 2

experience is the best teacher but if you felt guilt there may be other hidden feelings behind it you may be in some denial about tho i may be wrong

but i can tell the sincerity in the words you've typed that if there is a mistake you made in there you wouldnt do it again

let the past be the past face your fears head on and move forward