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Question

ok my friend had a baby well she died so i promised her i would do somethin and the kid is really cute and helpless but i'm only 15 and my boyfriend wants to adopt her to

R.I.P. Kristii

Answer 1

Did you promise her before or after she died?

This is such a bullsh*t question.

Go back under your bridge, troll.

Answer 2

You're obviously a really good friend, and it's great that you want to help this baby. But I have to gently suggest that adoption is not the best way you can help.

Adoption is a major and life-altering decision. The rest of your life would never be the same. From then on, your primary responsibility would always be as a parent. It's not something to be done quickly, or because the baby is "cute and helpless." The child needs a secure and stable environment to grow up in.

At fifteen, you're too young to be allowed to adopt (you can't actually sign a binding legal contract,) and at your age you can't count on your boyfriend being around forever to provide co-parenting support. Your heart is obviously in the right place, but I just don't think you're ready for this.

I think the best you can do is let the family take the baby in or a social worker to find a placement, and then continue to be active in the baby's life. Visit the kid, spend time with him/her, and help the child remember the biological mother-- something you can do better than anyone else.

I'm sorry about your friend's death, but I don't think adopting her baby is in the best interests of any of you.

Answer 3

What do the grandparents have to say?

You are a minor, so you cannot adopt until you are 18 and I doubt the family will let that happen.

Why not offer to be Godparents?

Answer 4

Last week you were so desparate for a boyfriend that you posted a request for one on the singles answer board.  Go do your homework or something.  

Answer 5

Where are the girls parents or grandparents? Does the baby have nobody else? How old is your boyfriend? How long have you been together? Do you have a job or a means to support yourself and the baby? These are all important factors..

I honestly think that you are not ready to raise a child and the best thing you can do is make sure that the baby gets a good home with great adoptive parents...

But then again you could be the most mature 15 year old on the face of the earth...i don't know you, but it sounds like you are not ready to be a mother...

Good Luck

Answer 6

How is it you have this child with you? Have you talked with your dead friends parents (childs grandparents) and they have allowed you to care for this child? What about the father or his parents? If caring for this child is what you really want to do then yo need to talk to all parties involved and that would be the father and all the grandparents, and convince them that you are taking this seriously.  i will not say you are too young. I will say you are giving up your youth if you chose this path. It has been done by other mothers at your age. I'm not sure your boyfriend will be able to adopt if he is the same age as you.

If this child is in foster care already I don't thinkk you stand a chance.

Answer 7

You my dear are indeed to young to become an adoptive parent when you yourself are still consider a minor by law.

The biological mother who passed away should have family, I would assume and hope. Immediate family need to get involved for the will being of this infant and make a decision on what to do, not you.

Sorry.  

Answer 8

You are a kid... Did you know that you are also helpless because like that baby, you are not an ADULT.... Ask your parents to adopt it.  

Answer 9

you probably wouldn't even be able to adopt the baby due to your age, a court may not be able to take you seriously enough unless you and your boyfriend are able to support yourselves financially.  I'm sorry if that sounds harsh but it's the truth.