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Thanks for clicking on my q. I have been dating this chick for around 1 1/2 months. Basically, she started getting all needy and whining that I dont care, and I'm going to break her heart. I am def not a player and loved her deeply and assured her that that wouldn't happen. She did not believe me and got mad over every little thing. Then she started acting all distant -ish . I felt like maybe she was closing off her heart to me or soemthing. I really was noticing it just wasn't the same. I Told her so, and she kept suggesting "Well you want to break up with me." she is the one who kept bringing it up. I pointed this out to her as well.She said "well it seems like it." I was like "Well maybe you want to break up with me and thats why you keep saying it." She said "No.thats not what i want." well then she says "well its what you want so have a good night, bye." I said "you too." and hung up. Its been two days, I haven't caled her and she hasn;t called me. so who broke up with who? Btw i miss her but i should mvoe on right? THANK YOU SO MUCH!

Answer 1

She needs to grow up. You need to stop being her juvenile enabler. It's a toxic relationship, let it go for now.

Answer 2

I hate whiney women

Answer 3

in my opinion straight relationships work better than g*y or L*****n ones. she probbably just wanted to break up with you. i think you should find another girl,or better guy.(ok i know you probably wont go for the guy.) just fina another girl.

Answer 4

Sounds to me like you agreed to breaking up, and it was a mutual thing.  She assumed you wanted to break up, you didn't disagree, so she was giving you what you wanted, in the long run.  Or so she was thinking, I'm sure.  Confusing, yes, but that's how I'm seeing it here.  

Yes, you need to move on. She's not worth the headaches and heartache.  Sounds to me like you got out of a potentially bad relationship in the nick of time.  She's got insecurity issues that you don't need to deal with.  Besides, there are a lot more womyn out there that would appreciate you and not play mind games on you.

Answer 5

I read the list of answers here. No one says it better than COWBOY. What an insightful guy! I have been on the insecure end of such a relationship and my partner was patient and understanding, but also let me know that I had to work along and grow to maturity and security in the relationship. It takes courage and effort, but it can work. I had plenty of scars to heal from. I learned a lot and owe so much to her.

Getting out of the relationship might be necessary to protect yourself, but if you do love her and want to continue, follow Cowboy's advice.

Thanks!

Answer 6

Listen to Cowboy!! You really don't have much to lose, you're hurting now... Just be gentle to her and to yourself...

Answer 7

I'll be your girl.

Answer 8

I don't suppose it really matters who broke up with who, does it. You only have a month and a half invested in her, sounds like she doesn't know what she wants. You two do not offer each other what you need so it's just better to part ways now. Good luck in finding the right woman.

L

Answer 9

She wanted to break up with you. And she did. She just made it seem as if you broke up with her to avoid the guilt. She is immature and silly. Move on.

Answer 10

She is exhibiting classic "passive-aggressive" behavior. I hate to tell you this but you're better off without her. You will not be able to ever make her happy and she won't own up to her own emotions, wants, needs, etc. and will project them onto you. Her "well you want to break up with me" comment is classic. What would give her that idea?

Although you miss her, in time,  you will have moved on, which I believe is the best course of action for you to take. Good luck.

Answer 11

Many people in this world have been burned by others. so rather than endure pain from insecurity they will create a little drama to cause a fight to ultimately break up. It sounds like her insecurities and probably past lovers have burned her to the point that she would rather close herself off and be alone than with someone.

If you care for her, call her and talk to her. Tell her you want to continue to try (if that is what you want). It is hard to say if she will try again. This situation may even happen again, but as time slowly passes by the insecurity lessons and she will be a wonderful person to love. You just have to overcome the scares that others have left her. It doesn't sound like it is her fault per say, but life in general and emotional scares like that are hard to overcome alone. They take time and patience and most of all love.

Answer 12

you need to get a man..  to put you in YOUR place..   hey, and no more strap-on's to deal with!   win, win.  

Answer 13

She sounds very insecure!  She is playing games with your head, seeing how far she can push you.  My advice is to move on, you dont have alot of time invested into the relationship, so, get out there and find someone else who is secure in their life.