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I'm 13 I am pregant one night I got got drunk and stoned and I don't know who itvwas with or if it was rape but it was at my friends friends friends party and I can't tell my parents my father has a temper and likes to use his hands I don't know what to do please help I don't know why i'm on this site it's just nothing else seems to work

Answer 1

Watever u do dont get abortion its the same as murdering your baby, or when your dads out tell your mum or an auntry or adult you trust also if u live in nz call 0800 whats up

Answer 2

WTF were u thinking???

Answer 3

ar you being sacarstic???

If not your are seriously F***ed.WOW i dont know what to tell you.best of luck to you.good luck:)

Sincerly ernesto

Answer 4

I got pregnant at 15. I'm 17 now.

I know how it is to not be able to say anything.

My mom freaked when she found out and told me I couldn't keep my baby.

I fought to keep my baby and he's the best thing that has ever happened to me.

It isn't easy, but it also isn't as hard as people like to make it seem.

Planned Parenthood is a good place to start.  Since you are only 13, I would recommend you putting the baby up for adoption.  Abortion is a bad choice because it can make you feel guilty for killing your baby, and it is hard on your body.  Then again, so is pregnancy.

Honestly dear, it is up to you what to do with your baby, but I recommend asking to go live with a grandparent, or an aunt.  That way you are away from your father.  I'm sorry that he hits you, and I hope you can get out of this situation.

One thing is for sure though, you should stop drinking and doing drugs.  My mother got pregnant at 14 and has had 6 kids, and did drugs for years, and now no one wants anything to do with her.

Drugs can, and will ruin your life if you aren't careful.

I wish you the best of luck in this ordeal.

Answer 5

well see a doctor. gotta take proper care of the baby.

Answer 6

The first thing you must do is tell your Parents and then the authorities in your state whether you were drunk or not this is a case of Rape.

Don't delay .

Answer 7

"I'm 13 I am pregant one night I got got drunk and stoned and I don't know who itvwas with or if it was rape but it was at my friends friends friends party".

Your parents have a lot to answer for, giving you the freedom you obviously have. Now you have to live with the consequences. It's a bit late for you, but hopefully some of your friends will learn something.

The best option with the possibility of a mother like you? Abortion; it's crazy to think otherwise.

No sympathy here.

Answer 8

OK, first of all do you think there's a chance of you being pregnant? I realize you are 13 but do you have any GOOD friends that you would trust to take you to a doctor to check you out. I hate to draw upon my own experiences but a similar thing happened to me while on vacation in Mexico. Maybe you can get by without having to tell your parents and you can go to a doctor....get thrououghly checked out and ease your mind about any stds or anything. Another question is...are you close to your mother? do you think she would tell your father? If you don't have the money to go to a gyno then maybe a health department could help you out. they are usually good and helpful when it comes to stuff like this and you wouldn't have to worry about money. As far as this guy goes...I understand you don't know if it was rape or whatever but he definitely took advantage of you. Do you have any idea how to find out who it is? If so, and the doctor determines it was rape then you might want to look into it further and consider reporting it. Also, another benefit would be to stay AWAY from this guy in any situation and make sure your friends stay away too. I felt like you when this happened..I didn't know which way to turn but there are things to be done. Don't beat yourself up and things will get straightened out. If you'd liketo write me further I think I'm on IM or you can write to my yahoo messenger. I would really like to help further if you have any other questions or anything....sincerely...j

Answer 9

First off, go see a doctor.

Second off, I'm sorry to say but you shouldn't have made the stupid mistake of doing what you did.  

Answer 10

Why did you put the question in the pets section put it in the parenting section if you want tons of answers but since your thirteen prego and you drink you would have a lot of negative comments how ever I would tell a trusted adult (not your dad) and get an abortion your only thirteen you would be totally be giving up your life and what would you do when your dad sees your tummy when your 8 months prego.

Answer 11

I have to agree with TwiGGy; I know it seems hard now but just take things a day at a time. This baby could be a really wonderful blessing for you if you choose to bring him or her into the world, you just need to give him/her a chance. If you feel you can trust your mom, find a moment when your father is out of the house (say, at work, or at the grocery store) and talk to her; you can also go to your school counselor, but whatever you decide you should definitely see your doctor, and get regular checkups; being as young as you are, you need to make sure that you're healthy.

I don't recommend getting an abortion, it is an easy solution but easy solutions are rarely the best ones in the long run. My mother is involved in a ministry that helps counsel ladies who have had abortions; some of these ladies feel guilt for the rest of their lives because they know they killed their baby, some become very bitter and paranoid people, and in some cases getting an abortion even damages the woman's body so that she can never have children again; this is not a scare tactic, it is not propaganda I "heard somewhere", I personally know ladies who have had this happened, and have to live with the grief that they killed the only baby they will ever have.

Don't think that you have to get an abortion just because your parents may tell you to; when it boils down to it, parents recommend abortion because they are looking for the way out that is easiest for them. The fact that you're afraid your father will hurt you and the fact that you were even able to go out and get drunk in the first place indicates that they probably aren't the best source of advice for you anyway. You need to think about what is best for you and your baby. I would suggest that you wait and give the baby up for adoption; there are some really wonderful people out there who would just love to love your little baby, and it could turn out to be a very happy ending all around.

Whatever you choose to do, I hope everything turns out well.

Answer 12

Why don't you ask your mom to take you to the doctor and when you get there ask to talk to the doctor alone they'll know what to do. or talk to another family member. or one of your friends.

i wouldnt really recommend abortion cuz its terrible, but you're so young...

Answer 13

Hello young lady i hope you have learned from this situation and i advise you to contact the pregnancy center for teenage girls in your city because you have to make sure you and the baby are safe.   You can tell your mom if she is not like your dad and she can handle your dad you are pregnant why would he put his hands on you.  Your dad do love you.

Answer 14

Do you have a local Planned Parent Hood... if so they can help you.  They will be able to give you all of the advice and medical attention you need and its free and confidential so your parents don't have to know.  Check out the internet or a phone book to find a location.  You should try to get to the them as soon as possible.  Good Luck

Answer 15

omg you poor girl

can you ask anyone who saw what was going on?!

i would say. tell your mom. and tell your doctor

keep it away from your dad!

Answer 16

Well...go to the doctor...maybe ask a friends mom to take you or talk to your school counsiler. Also, when you tell your dad...make sure someone is in the room with you, someone besides your mom. Maybe even the doctor. Just please take care of the little one. you can do it! :-) In 5 years all this pain will be a memorie