Please answer what's wrong with me?

Question

I'm 20 years old and for about four years now i feel like i have zero self confidence, I can't buy what i want cause i dont have the confidence to wear it, therefore i'm stuck with t-shirts and jeans.

Going to bars and clubs is a no for me as i feel like people will judge me for what i'm wearing etc.

Most of the time i feel fat, ugly and unattractive even though i weigh 8 stone 5lbs, i usually think to myself why would any guy be interested in me?

And i always have a sort of empty feeling in my stomach.

Actually, the only time i dont feel like this is when i'm around this guy i dont feel fat or unattractive and the empty feeling seems to disappear(we're not dating).

Btw, i was not bullied as a child and have had more or less an average childhood.

I know i've posted this question before, but can anyone tell me why i'm feeling like this all the time?

Answer 1

I would like to know if you are studying or working, whatever it is make sure it is something that you want to do.  Work hard at it whatever it is and success will follow therefore making you feel good in yourself.  You need to start loving yourself a bit more sweety, accepting yourself and if there are things you want to change about yourself to make you like yourself a little more go ahead and do it.  Every person on this earth is entitled to be here and must make the most of their life as we have only one.  Stop judging yourself all the time and stop worrying so much about how other people view you.  Go ahead and wear something you would like to wear, there are lots of shy people in the world so dont worry about that.

If this guy makes you feel better about yourself then be around him, we should all spend our time with people that make us feel better and avoid those that are negative.

Answer 2

You need a personal "Life Plan". You need to decide who you are and what you want to be in life. You then need to plan how to get there and importantly how long you want to take getting there. Lets list some goals.

, who am I, who do I want to be

Career, what do I want to be.

What do I want from life and how do I get it.

To get the answers to these questions you now have to stop thinking so much and start planning actions.

Weak up and smell the coffee, if you see what you want then go for it.

Answer 3

thearapist... talk to them. or talk to a good friend... or a cousin maybe also try using U.S. measurments.  

Answer 4

some people have high confidence some people  have none many people with this has a chemical inblance. it could be a server level of depression. the only way to find out is going to a doctors to talk to someone so they can see what they can do for you.

Answer 5

you need a boost of self confidence and esteem, maybe having a male friend helps you realize that not all men are after one thing, although you may still have thoughts that the ones you don't know are. the only advice i can give is try talking to people you don't know that well. i had the same problem and still do when I'm on the phone.

Answer 6

Go to the therapist they didn't help me any but the meds they gave me made me a happy person and not shy anymore.

Answer 7

Sounds like depression and anxiety...you should talk to a professional to see what your diagnosis is, and maybe get on some meds that will help you.

Answer 8

youre just 2 self conscious of yourself all the time

if your 85 lbs your not fat

Answer 9

you sound like you are a little unhappy with yourself. and no one can change that but you. try looking yourself in the mirror and talking with yourself like it is a Friend i know it sounds a little crazy but it really does help build your confidence who you are is unique to you so be yourself and just shine through. be happy don't worry.

Answer 10

I don't think there's anything wrong with you. You are just lacking in self-esteem, that's all. Verbal abuse and bullying aren't the only things that lead to a lack of self-esteem. Sometimes, you grow up not hearing any kind of praise at all and that has about the same effect. "Normal" people need to learn how to feel good about themselves too.

Stop comparing yourself to everyone else and find something you like about yourself. (i.e. your hair, your eyes, etc.) And don't worry about what clothes you wear, just find things that you like and that are comfortable.

Also, don't walk out of the house everyday with other people on your mind. Dress for yourself, act for yourself and hold your head up. People like others that are confident in themselves and have their own agenda.  

Answer 11

I didn't realize until I was 30 that 99% of people in public are non judgemental. Just go out and enjoy your reality as you create your own. Be yourself and forget about others. Who cares what other people are thinking. People are attracted to those who are relaxed and comfortable. What you are experiencing is normal and the sooner you understand that the sooner you will get on with life