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Question

I don't love my exs and I don't want to have s*x with them but I still think about it.Do you think that my husband would divorce me or stop trusting me if I told him this?I'm not going to act on the thoughts,I don't even like the thoughts.I don't keep in contact with my exs for this reason.We have a very honest marriage so we don't believe in holding anything back.He asked me this.WE tell each other everything but if you were him would you divorce me or lose trust in me,what would you do,that's the main question.

Answer 1

somtimes things like these can just be a random fantasy and doenst really mean anything

u claim u love ur husband and u have no intentions of actually doing this buh if the image of having s*x with an ex boyfriend tends to turn u on more than having s*x with ur husband, then that could cause problems in the long run where u might just stop becoming arounsed by ur husband al together and he might wonder what is wrong with the relationship etc.

you really need to start to control ur urges or fantasies about having s*x with an ex because they will get out of control - u can do this by attaching ugly scenarios every time the thought or image of an ex in any sexual activity comes up (i.e. if ur thinking of having s*x with an ex, think about ur husband instead .. or think about a negative situation, such as a bad fight with an ex)

also, maybe ur s*x life with the exes were beter than that with ur husband??

and finally, dont tell ur husband becuz he will definitely get jealous and will feel he is inadequate in some sense (even if he is not) becuz men work with their ego and itll be a real shot to his ... as well as resulting in him being jealous and hateful and distrusting of you and men around you

gluck

hope that helps

Answer 2

Being in a relationship is difficult and we always fantasize about s*x with others. Well, not always, it's usually when things get "boring" or there is some problem between the 2 of you. Fantasizing is perfectly acceptable. And, not every single thing needs to be shared between 2 people. Your fantasies are yours and yours alone. Your husband would have no right to be upset by them. My boyfriend thinks my fantasies about ex's are funny. Because he knows they are just that - fantasies. Sounds like you and your ex need to seriously talk about personal space. That could be why you are fantasizing about your ex's - because they gave you some space? Well, whatever the reason - it sounds like you completely love your husband and you are thinking about all of this wayyyy too much. You should go out, get away from it, do something else until your mind settles. You'll feel better.